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Totally besotted with this guy - barely even know him?


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I first met him 3 years ago - we went to the same uni and had mutual friends. I started speaking to him because we are from the same area. I was immediately attracted to him, even though he isn't particularly good looking. Nothing happened that night, other than us talking (he had a girlfriend), but it was nice to meet someone from my hometown too and we became friends on Facebook.

 

Almost exactly two years later, we bump into each other again. He has moved back home while I live in our university city, but he is visiting friends here. He is real happy to see me, and I'm pretty over the moon to see him, even though I hadn't thought of him really since our initial meeting.

 

We end up sleeping together. He asks me how often I go home, but since it's quite a journey, I tell him its not very often. I got the impression he would've liked to have seen me again, but we both know it's not really feasible. He visits again a month later, we sleep together again. I tell him I'm visiting home and he seems fairly interested, but again, not particularly enthusiastic about meeting up. The thing is, when I get the chance to visit home, I prefer to see family. So I don't mention it when i'm there and neither does he.

 

I didn't think it'd bother me so much, but I can't stop thinking about him since. It has been SIX MONTHS since we last saw each other (the sex wasn't even that good!), but I can't help but day dream what we'd be like as a couple. I am so attracted to him and I like his personality, or what I saw of it. It kills me that 1.) I keep thinking about this person and 2.) I'm so far removed from him, I can't act on it.

 

When we first hooked up, it was like neither of us could really be bothered with even trying the LD thing. He tried it with his previous girlfriend and I think it has put him off. But now I think I could - I just don't know if he'd meet me halfway. Our conversation kinda tailed off after a while because, it's hard to maintain any relationship via text/fb message.

 

He works for a company that has an office based in London (though he works at one nearer our home town). The company I work with has a potential opening for me there, and I can't help but obsess a little over the idea if he ever potentially moved too, I could make an attempt at initiating something.

 

The thing is - he is ALWAYS in my facebook top friend chat list, and comes up in my friends box - which makes me think he must be regularly checking my profile (I know I don't check his, we haven't interacted on Facebook in months, don't have pictures together etc. and he only appeared since we slept together).

 

For info - I'm not the kind of woman who obsesses over things! I don't even check his facebook out.

 

Any advice on where I can go from here? Even if that means moving on?

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