Megggpie Posted November 22, 2014 Posted November 22, 2014 I am pretty sure I made the right choice. I just want some reassurance from others. I was talking to this guy, whom I got along greatly with. He was everything I wanted which is hard for me to find. The problem was he worked 70+ hours a week. We discussed that he worked a lot, but were going to continue talking. Well I thought I could handle it, but after us not being able to talk for quite a few days, and him finally texting me back one day and still being at work at 11pm which he sent a picture of him there lol. I realized he really didn't have time for me. And I didn't like that. We kind of got in a fight over it where I explained I was moving on. He thought I need a different guy as well. He apologized and said he just couldn't jungle everything. There had to be some time in those few days the guy could of sent me a 2 second text. So I chalked it up as a loss and determined he was just not that into me. Did I do the right thing... or being a bit over dramatic?
spiderowl Posted November 22, 2014 Posted November 22, 2014 (edited) Sorry to hear of your experience. Either the guy wasn't interested or he was a work addict. I think you're absolutely right - you need contact and connection and he wasn't offering either. I have also given up on guys for this reason, a week wondering what's going on, with sporadic, minimal texts is enough for me to know the guy is not right for me. I have quite a bit of experience of communicating with guys and some are interactive and some are not. Some of the 'not' category have other things going on like a busy work life, though if they are busy at work yet 'keeping in touch' just about, I suspect they are cultivating other women and keeping me on the back burner. Basically, you deserve a guy who focuses on you but keeps his other responsibilities going. The guys is not offering you a relationship: a relationship is about relating and interacting. The guy who's right for you will love that you pay him attention and will gladly return it. xx Edited November 22, 2014 by spiderowl
preraph Posted November 22, 2014 Posted November 22, 2014 Lots of people work long hours. If you're really going to be successful, you have to work long hours and even two jobs many times. I've worked two jobs most of my life and not even done more than keep up with my bills from it, really. No one should really be spending their work hours texting their honey for no reason. For one thing, it's only going to make them have to be there longer. For another reason, obviously, someone who works 70 hours a week is looking to keep their job and screwing around on the job with your smartphone is a good way to get your boss mad at you. It really only takes one time of seeing an employee at their desk not working but on their smartphone for a supervisor to realize they're wasting time while on the clock. The other thing is you are asking this man to have you at the forefront of his mind at all times. That isn't fair. He's working. His mind is on work. He's being paid to keep his mind on work. He has literally no reason to have you on his mind while he is at work. Your time is when he's not at work. Now, maybe his mind is also on work when he's not at work and is with you, and I wouldn't blame if you took exception to that. But if he leaves work at the office, I think he's being perfectly reasonable and ambitious. Honestly, it sounds to me like you have too much time on your hands and could be doing something more productive with it than just waiting for someone to give you attention via texting.
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