rubypixiwoo Posted November 22, 2014 Posted November 22, 2014 My ex and I were together on/off for 4 years while at Uni, until last year found out he cheated on me with this other girl not long since we started going long distance due to his new job. Before his move. He said he loved me, never felt that way with a girl before, reason he always go back to me all thus time. At the start of long distance he was like a changed man, so nice to me, making plans to visit, texts and Skype, like he was trying really hard to prove he won't hurt me again. We made plans for the future, but a house, have kids... My ex kept our relationship a secret but with her he's really open about his relationship with this other girl - talks about her, post photos on Instagram, Facebook... I feel like the loser, i'm the one who was dumped while she had the girlfriend, relationship status on Facebook. They've only been together for 1 year and half, I saw on Instagram and Facebook that they are expecting a child together and been in holiday to visit his grandad in Spain, and since I've found out I'm really hurt and so upset about it. He gets to be happy after the way he treated me. During our 4 years he always treated me with all his lies and excuses. It upsets me to think just after 3 months meeting her they were in a relationship, treating her well and now 1 year later having a baby in short space of time. Why would this happen, was I not good enough for him? Why did he do that to me?
zen2475 Posted November 22, 2014 Posted November 22, 2014 I think you should probably stay away from any of his social media. You are torturing yourself by looking and comparing your relationship with him to theirs. As Mark Twain said, "Comparison is the death of joy." I would be grateful that I was not with him. The fact he treated you with lies and excuses is all the reason for that. Hold yourself in higher esteem and realize you are worth more. He is the failure, not you. Yes, you have been hurt and betrayed. You gave him a chance to prove himself after he betrayed you, and he failed. He is not worthy of you. You don't know what their life is like. What you see on social media can easily mask the truth of their relationship. Now she's stuck with him and their kid. Be thankful that's not you, forever tethered to someone who is a liar and a cheat. My ex left me out of the blue a year and half ago. Shortly thereafter, he was in a relationship with someone else. Last May, he told me he missed me and never fell out of love with me, but forgot to tell me he had married this woman THE DAY BEFORE! Two months after he married her, he's actively cheating on her on Twitter, inviting women to sext him on Kik. I count my blessings every day I am not his wife. I can relate to how you feel. I was beyond devastated by this breakup, but I now realize the love I lost was probably not the one I thought I had, as my ex's true colors have come out. You have no idea what is going on beyond their closed doors, and I would be dollars to donuts it's no better than what your relationship was. So quit comparing your relationship with him to something you know nothing about. It's all pure speculation and it's robbing you of precious time you can spend being happy and looking forward to your wonderful future. 1
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