xtaraleksbfx Posted March 17, 2005 Posted March 17, 2005 yea the guy ive been talking about and crying over has a girlfriend...this is the third time this has happened to me, the last guy i liked a lot started dating my best friend after we got into an arguement, and the guy before i dated for a year and he cheated on me since day one...and now this. and to make matters worse my friend mentioned my name in front of the guy i like and he denied the fact that he even knows who i am.
Merin Posted March 17, 2005 Posted March 17, 2005 I'm sorry.. I don't think I've followed your threads regarding this guy. So.. just curious.. when you say you like HIM does that mean you've had a crush on him, but not actually dated him or really know him? I'm asking because he's denied knowing you to a mutual friend.. so I'm wondering if this has been a crush for you on him.. and although you've been around him before that in all honesty perhaps he didn't notice?
Author xtaraleksbfx Posted March 17, 2005 Author Posted March 17, 2005 actually we were friends for a while and i would see him all the time and go to his house and he would act like we were dating, he even told his friends he likes me and wanted to hook up with me and everytime i saw him i liked him more and more and i got to the point where i was going crazy not being with him and i havent talked to him in like two months cause he wont answer his phone or my texts and ive been crying myself to sleep every night because of this, and now it just got worse casue i found out he has a girlfriend.
Merin Posted March 18, 2005 Posted March 18, 2005 Originally posted by xtaraleksbfx actually we were friends for a while and i would see him all the time and go to his house and he would act like we were dating, he even told his friends he likes me and wanted to hook up with me and everytime i saw him i liked him more and more and i got to the point where i was going crazy not being with him and i havent talked to him in like two months cause he wont answer his phone or my texts and ive been crying myself to sleep every night because of this, and now it just got worse casue i found out he has a girlfriend. Ahh.. Well.. it sucks when you've got a crush on someone who isn't returning the feelings:( Heres the deal.. this guy was your FRIEND.. it doesn't matter if you percieved him to behave in a way that the 2 of you were dating from what you've said the 2 of you never actually went on a date or hooked up.. even if he told his friends that he wanted to or that he liked you it isn't what someone SAYS it's what they DO.. For your own sake and self esteem the best possible thing to do right now is stop calling him, stop text messaging him.. the more you sweat this guy the more he is going to ignore you and more than likely start telling his other friends that you won't leave him alone... you don't want that. Essentially he really doesn't owe you anything here so to speak.. yeah it is crappy of him to treat a friend like this.. (and that right there should make you re evaluate if you even want his friendship for what it's worth) however the 2 of you were not dating, were not a couple.. so really he didn't/doesn't need to tell you it's over.. because there was never a relationship to begin with. Honestly it seems like you're in love with the idea of him and what you imagine things could be.. when you start feeling bad about this keep in mind he really isn't a good friend to you.. so for real he wouldn't make a good BF. Good Luck and I hope you feel better
JoL Posted March 18, 2005 Posted March 18, 2005 Maybe it's the kind of guys you go for..there seems to be a pattern emerging- they all lie to you, cheat on you and hurt you. Do you think you are going for a particular "type" of guy that does this stuff? Or has it been bad luck all three times?
Author xtaraleksbfx Posted March 18, 2005 Author Posted March 18, 2005 im not really sure if its bad luck or not or maybe its just me. but thanks merin that helps a lot!
Recommended Posts