greenman77 Posted November 22, 2014 Posted November 22, 2014 So I've gone out with this girl twice now. First date was initiated by me and I planned it and paid for everything. Second date was suggested by her but it was me who actually planned the date and asked her out again. I picked her up at her place, went out and then drove her back. And I paid for everything again. I'm not into playing games but I would like to see if she's interested enough to actually come up with the third date than actually me doing it again. I'm terrible when it comes to this stuff so is it fair of me to actually wait and see if she comes up with the third date? And if there is to be a third date, am I expected to pay again? Thanks for the help.
CatalystNX Posted November 22, 2014 Posted November 22, 2014 I always pay. And 9/10 I'll be the one to plan the date. I wouldn't say the ball's in her court. You either enjoy going out with her or you don't. You seem to be treating it as a chore rather than something to enjoy. 1
Nyc_user Posted November 22, 2014 Posted November 22, 2014 So I've gone out with this girl twice now. First date was initiated by me and I planned it and paid for everything. Second date was suggested by her but it was me who actually planned the date and asked her out again. I picked her up at her place, went out and then drove her back. And I paid for everything again. I'm not into playing games but I would like to see if she's interested enough to actually come up with the third date than actually me doing it again. I'm terrible when it comes to this stuff so is it fair of me to actually wait and see if she comes up with the third date? And if there is to be a third date, am I expected to pay again? Thanks for the help. lol take her to the park so neither of you pay anything
phineas Posted November 22, 2014 Posted November 22, 2014 Don't play games. I never do anything more expensive than a few drinks or find other things to do that aren't expensive so money doesn't become an issue. she let you pick her up at her house. If she wasn't interested, that probably wouldn't of happened. Some women are just really passive & expect the man to do the heavy lifting in the beginning. Once you sleep with her she will come around and initiate more. Which, should be real soon.
preraph Posted November 22, 2014 Posted November 22, 2014 She can't possibly know what's going through your head and I'm not sure why you feel she needs to take over at this point, but if it's money, then as the other poster said, invite her for a walk or something that doesn't cost anything and see how that goes. I wouldn't stop making dates with her or you'll end up alone.
normal person Posted November 22, 2014 Posted November 22, 2014 Stop bringing money into it, it's not really an indicator of interest or not. Pay for everything to avoid any problems. You might as well ask her out again. If she wants to go, she will. If she doesn't, there's your answer.
Author greenman77 Posted November 22, 2014 Author Posted November 22, 2014 Thanks for the advice guys. Like I said I'm totally clueless about this stuff.
smackie9 Posted November 22, 2014 Posted November 22, 2014 Sorry but dating isn't like a vending machine where you punk your money in and expect something to come out of it. That isn't how it works. Dating is to get to know one another, but also to have physical contact. You have to be a man about it and make the moves on her, like flirting, touching, holding hands, and a good night kiss. If you don't have confidence for that you will be going nowhere. The key thing is your interaction with her on the dates, not the money spent.
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