How they carry themselves in their photos

[irc333]

I have to say, even though I go through my routine of emailing through dating sites. I have to say, have you ever ran into a picture or a series of picture where someone really captures your attention visually?

 

I'm not saying it's completely physical attraction, I've seen tons of attractive woman on dating sites. Most of which have deadpan looks on their face or "WTF are you looking at" looks. Forced smiles, etc.

 

However, there was this one woman that really caught my eye, gorgeous smile, and stood with such great poise. Very classy and elegant (Yeah, suprised she's on OK Cupid, lol)

 

Anyways, had to email her. But the thing about it that her that set her from the rest is that she looked very natural and comfortable in her photos. It all seemed genuine. She carried herself very well. She actually seemed like she wasn't posing.

 

Most importantly, she looked like she didn't have an axe to grind.

 

I almost felt like telling her, "Get away from here, you don't deserve to be on a dating site!!" LOL (I am referring to the cretins that she mind up winding getting d**k pics from and such. She doesn't deserve that.

 

Anyhow, that all being said, could you agree on this?

[MidwestUSA]

I don't think that you can go so far a to derive from pictures that she doesn't have 'an axe to grind'! In fact, it's a bit radical to be attempting to read something like that from pics. I mean, how would you even be thinking about axes when looking at pics. That's weird.

 

But, yea, some people exude their natural confidence in pictures. If she's fit and has good posture, it helps. Perhaps she even practiced posing, or was forced, as a teen, to attend an etiquette class, where women learn how to carry themselves. Maybe she's an athlete, ore a model.

 

I used to get a lot of comments on my pics. I was fit (still am), and as an athlete and former bodybuilder, I just had my pics taken in what I considered my natural setting, doing what I do. Nothing forced about it. Too many people settle for a crappy mug shot type pic that relays nothing about them.

 

I will say that I certainly could have pulled off being misleading had I so desired. Meaning, I could have it all - the wonderful pics that got so many comments, AND an axe to grind. Or a chip on my shoulder. Or a Samsonite store full of baggage. No one would have assumed any such thing from my pictures, and I don't even know why or how anyone would try.

 

Just because this woman exudes confidence in her pics doesn't mean she doesn't 'deserve' to be on a dating site. That's ridiculous. I'm sure she can handle the dick pix just fine; we all learned how to handle them. You speak as if OLD is only for a certain desperate demographic. She's human and looking to meet people. I think that's all that's required to use OLD.

 

 

Did she reply to you?

[irc333]

Just because this woman exudes confidence in her pics doesn't mean she doesn't 'deserve' to be on a dating site. That's ridiculous. I'm sure she can handle the dick pix just fine; we all learned how to handle them. You speak as if OLD is only for a certain desperate demographic.

 

I speak of no such thing, not sure where you even came close to that idea.

 

Wow, don't get all defensive. I was just asking a question. lol. Of course, I've seen written commentary of women with "an axe to grind" about their dating expectations, but that's for a different post. lol.

 

But there are pictures where in all 5 or 6 photos where they have this deadpan look on their face or dead eyes or something that is rather unattractive, even though they look attractive physically.

[GemmaUK]

Perhaps you look for an 'axe to grind' because you have one to grind yourself?

 

 

I never use selfie's on OLD. I only ever use photos that someone else has taken and where usually I was not even aware they were taking the photo.

 

 

Perhaps she does the same.

[CaliGypsy]

The comment I get most often from men on OLD is that they like my smile and it appears genuine.

 

I feel the same way. A nice smile can make a big difference. I think it also gives an impression of approachability.