Mrin Posted November 21, 2014 Posted November 21, 2014 I am making this threat to keep from hijacking someone else's... Observation: I can't count the number of posts that I've seen that start out with something like, "my BF/GF is an amazing person. He/she is caring, and gentle and..... [insert endless string of praise]". Then a few paragraphs or sentences down you hear about them yelling, cheating, lying, and doing all sorts of unacceptable behavior. Seriously, I've seen stuff like "and then he called me a whore and kicked me out of the house" or even threats of physical violence or just really anti-social behavior. I don't get it. Why the blanket statement at the top? Is that false praise? Is it some subconscious justification of why you're even still dating this seemingly reprehensible person? A disconnect between who you think the person is and who they really are? Makes no sense...
Redhead14 Posted November 21, 2014 Posted November 21, 2014 I am making this threat to keep from hijacking someone else's... Observation: I can't count the number of posts that I've seen that start out with something like, "my BF/GF is an amazing person. He/she is caring, and gentle and..... [insert endless string of praise]". Then a few paragraphs or sentences down you hear about them yelling, cheating, lying, and doing all sorts of unacceptable behavior. Seriously, I've seen stuff like "and then he called me a whore and kicked me out of the house" or even threats of physical violence or just really anti-social behavior. I don't get it. Why the blanket statement at the top? Is that false praise? Is it some subconscious justification of why you're even still dating this seemingly reprehensible person? A disconnect between who you think the person is and who they really are? Makes no sense... IT IS some subconscious justification of why you're even still dating this seemingly reprehensible person. A disconnect between who you think the person is and who they really are.
OwMyEyeball Posted November 21, 2014 Posted November 21, 2014 Some form of Stockholm syndrome would be my guess. Codependency is another way of putting it. It boils down to the victim believing they deserve the abuse and a partner capable of it. How they came around to that belief is typically tied to prior abuses during their upbringing and/or through traumatic events later on in life. In a sense, the victim and the abuser are bound at a soulful level. They feel genuine attachment for each other, but through a shared pain instead of a warm love. They each need help beyond what they are capable of providing for each other, but rarely seek it out. It's tragic to watch these types of relationships unfold.
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