black and white Posted March 17, 2005 Posted March 17, 2005 hey guys and girls I have been in a relationship for 1 year and 8 months everything was good she showed me love and I did the same. we talk about getting married and she loved the idea and so did I we are both 21 years of age. Than came the day she broke up with me because she had a lot of things going on example step dad had cancer mom was sick college was hard and no job and the biggest one religion and my mom does not expect her I and don’t care what my mom thinks but the ex said thats other side of me and she needs to now that side of me also she is white and im black and ppl look at us sooooo much its tooo hard so all that got the best of her . So we broke up I handed the broke up well and did 1month 6 weeks of no contact. Than one day she called me to tell me her step dad past way and she need my help and friendship and I was ok with that than she started callin me a lot askin how I was than we went out one night I made my self look soo nice so the night when on and it was good Than on the same night she called me to ask me how I feel about everything I told her I expected it and im looking to the future also said Im having fun which I am than I asked her how she feel and she said its hard and she cant see her self with another person but me and she wants to spend her life with me but she now my mom wont expect her and that means we cant get married and also the color thing but there is no way I can change that if could I would and it kills me to know that I love her and wont her back but there is notting I can do about my religion or color or my mom she wants my friendship but i dont no
Pocky Posted March 17, 2005 Posted March 17, 2005 Amazing how after all the talks we've had regarding dating and color that suddenly we get a new member that has a problem regarding dating and color. I'll give this my stamp of "Dubious of Legitimacy."
Author black and white Posted March 17, 2005 Author Posted March 17, 2005 pocky---help me out what should i do i love her but she kno its cant happen for me and her but than she is lookin into the future which is not a good idea u kno
ww Posted March 17, 2005 Posted March 17, 2005 excuse me. we r in 2005 and still dealing with color problem? WE ARE ALL EQUAL AND SAME INSIDE .
GirlDown Posted March 17, 2005 Posted March 17, 2005 Originally posted by Pocky Amazing how after all the talks we've had regarding dating and color that suddenly we get a new member that has a problem regarding dating and color. I'll give this my stamp of "Dubious of Legitimacy." ditto.
Urban Rubble01 Posted March 18, 2005 Posted March 18, 2005 First off, I'm a bit confused on what the problem is. Is it the race thing or is it that your mom won't accept her ? Is the reason your mom won't accept her because of her race or because of her religion ? Anyway, as someone who was in an interracial relationship for 3.5 years (I'm white, she's Cambodian) I can tell you that (as cheesy as this sounds) love should be all that really matters. If you love her then it should not matter who looks at you weird, who thinks it's immoral and who will or won't accept you guys. Can you clarify what her response was about your mom ? It sounds like you don't care what your mom thinks but she does. Anyway, don't let race get in the way. Feel proud that you and your girl aren't reactionary bigotted bastards. Feel proud that you're contributing to the abolishment of racial distinctions. Hell, if you're thinking about kids, feel proud that you're going to really upset a bunch of fascists when you "dillute" their precious white race with your black DNA.
Groovy Posted April 19, 2005 Posted April 19, 2005 I have a multi-racial family so inter-racial dating is cool with my folks. I dated a black guy for a year and every once in a while I'd get looks from the older people in the South where I live. (When I lived up North it wasn't so bad). My favorite thing to do was make out and be all over him just to piss off narrow minded people. It's not often that you find a soul mate so why toss it out the window over skin color? Have you asked her to why she is letting her mother determine a decision about HER life? It sucks that her mom dictates her life and she can't be her own person. But yeah, I know it happened to my brother after a 7 year relationship and a partner still too afraid to introduce her black boyfriend......
mixwell Posted April 20, 2005 Posted April 20, 2005 I was also in a interracial relationship with my ex.. im white she is 1/2 filipino 1/2 middle eastern.. Personally I think the interracial girls are the hottest ones. haha.. I don't think ethnicity should make or break a relationship.. its really irrelivant. Doesn't matter what color you are we all have the same feelings inside !! If your ex feels like it was just tell her otherwise and try to get her to understand and not give a toss about what other people might think or look at you a certain way.. Tell them to piss off.. Anyways hope things work out for you ! Take it easy Peace
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