Coup La-La Posted November 21, 2014 Posted November 21, 2014 I have a female acquaintance that really likes me and wants to date me, but she and I don't have much in common and I really couldn't see myself in a relationship with her. But i recently discovered one of her friends that is also single and definitely IS the type of woman I would want a relationship with. What would be a polite way of trying to date this girl's friend instead of her? I really don't want to hurt anybody's feelings or incite jealousy!
Bruce Leigh Posted November 21, 2014 Posted November 21, 2014 What would be a polite way of trying to date this girl's friend instead of her? I really don't want to hurt anybody's feelings or incite jealousy! There is no polite way. Been down that road a few times, a few kisses and then the "i can't do that to my friend, she really likes you" Which i can see was admirable but i didn't really see it that way when it did happen I think women think like that a little bit more than men. 1
RockyCruz Posted November 21, 2014 Posted November 21, 2014 What would be a polite way of trying to date this girl's friend instead of her? I really don't want to hurt anybody's feelings or incite jealousy! It's best to back away mate. You don't do this when you know one girls likes you IF you are not prepared for the awkwardness and loss of a friend. It is too close within social circle. It can get very awkward and nasty, and maybe you lose the both. Women are different to men. They take social group, very important. Especially the bond of friend. It can be awkward. They communicate together more than men, socialise together, share problems with each other more than me. They are very protective of their tribe and jelousy can easily happen. If you don't want ANY chance of pain for anyone of them, best to not approach. Value the friend and see women outside of your social circle.
d0nnivain Posted November 21, 2014 Posted November 21, 2014 The one you like most likely won't go for you out of loyalty to her friend. Sorry
ascendotum Posted November 21, 2014 Posted November 21, 2014 There is no polite way. Been down that road a few times, a few kisses and then the "i can't do that to my friend, she really likes you" Which i can see was admirable but i didn't really see it that way when it did happen I think women think like that a little bit more than men. Sigh. I've been there a few times too. Unless her gf shows clear signs she fancies you, it is not going pan out if you now start switching your interest to her friend. You will hurt your female friend with the crush's feelings and likely make her jealous that you now want to spend more time with her friend. Its a shame in that even if her cute friend was not single you would not have this female friend as a gf, so you might as well capitalize on a great opportunity but in many cases they wont see it that way.
Recommended Posts