is there a chance

[black and white]

hey guys and girls I have been in a relationship for 1 year and 8 months everything was good she showed me love and I did the same. we talk about getting married and she loved the idea and so did I we are both 21 years of age.

 

Than came the day she broke up with me because she had a lot of things going on example step dad had cancer mom was sick college was hard and no job and the biggest one religion and my mom does not expect her I and don’t care what my mom thinks but the ex said thats other side of me and she needs to now that side of me also she is white and im black and ppl look at us sooooo much its tooo hard so all that got the best of her . So we broke up I handed the broke up well and did 1month 6 weeks of no contact.

 

Than one day she called me to tell me her step dad past way and she need my help and friendship and I was ok with that than she started callin me a lot askin how I was than we went out one night I made my self look soo nice so the night when on and it was good

 

Than on the same night she called me to ask me how I feel about everything I told her I expected it and im looking to the future also said Im having fun which I am than I asked her how she feel and she said its hard and she cant see her self with another person but me and she wants to spend her life with me but she now my mom wont expect her and that means we cant get married and also the color thing but there is no way I can change that if could I would and it kills me to know that I love her and wont her back but there is notting I can do about my religion or color or my mom she want my friendship but dont no

[BeachBummer]

B&W,

 

First, I assume you mean your mom won't respect her - just wanted to make sure I understood that right.

 

That said, not sure if the religious issue is on her end or yours (sounds like yours/your mom's). I'm no biblical expert (assuming you're Christian), but I've recently read some parts of the bible regarding marriage. It's pretty clear that the concept of marriage is the child leaving the parents for a partnership with another person (all sorts of talk about cleaving and whatnot). Of course there is the whole honor your father and mother part, but still, you have to make your own decisions. If this is relevant, make this clear to her, and to your mother for that matter. If your mom fails to accept this then she should go back and look at the parts in the bible about how to deal with your children (can't remember the details, but along the lines of don't smother them or treat them so they will resent you).

 

If you are non-Christian, I would be surprised if your religion's writings don't have a similar outlook.

 

Now, if she has a problem with race...well, as you said, you can't change that. Better to wish her on her merry way. Depending on where you live, you may always feel those "looks", but you both have to be confident enough in your relationship with each other to ignore them. If you really love each other, that shouldn't be a problem. In the meantime, spending fun times together is the best thing to do. If you never get back "together" then at least you may be able to remain friends, which wouldn't be such a bad thing.

 

Good luck!