Camaro Guy Posted November 21, 2014 Posted November 21, 2014 This is probably my biggest fear as of yet in dating or potential dating. I'm 24 and a male. I'm inexperienced. Women typically look for men to be "men" or in a sense, leaders. Do they view men as leaders sexually too? I feel that I would be not seen as a real man because I am inexperienced in the ways of relationships. "Why haven't you had sex yet? Is something wrong with you?" She may not say that but it might go through her head. Also a lot of women say they don't want to date inexperienced men. How do you get over this hurdle? Ethically, lying would be a wrong thing. So what happens? How do you break through the barrier of inexperience?
Toodaloo Posted November 21, 2014 Posted November 21, 2014 Very simple solution to these worries. Go and get some books and read up. Educate yourself so you know what you are doing when the time comes and instead of twittering on about being a virgin and oh my your fim fam is so so scarey and I don't know what to do with it get in there and have some fun. Sex is the LEAST of your worries. Your confidence is the biggest. Every man and woman was a virgin once. Experienced does not always mean good. A lot of women say that they don't want to date a man who has confidence issues. If you make your virginity an issue by discussing it it will show low confidence. If you just go out and enjoy yourself she will not even notice. Educate yourself. 1
d0nnivain Posted November 21, 2014 Posted November 21, 2014 I have rarely heard a woman say she doesn't want to date an inexperienced guy. I have said I'd rather you didn't announce it to me. Are you a leader in other areas of your life? Do you have a strong sense of self meaning you know who you are & what you want out of life? Translate those skills into your personal relationships. When it's time to get intimate, some instinct will take over. Remember people have been doing this for billions of years. You will be fine. 1
sillyanswer Posted November 21, 2014 Posted November 21, 2014 Also a lot of women say they don't want to date inexperienced men. How do you get over this hurdle? By dating the other women who don't say this?
PegNosePete Posted November 21, 2014 Posted November 21, 2014 By dating the other women who don't say this? Exactly. LOL. If I go to a restaurant and am a vegetarian, how can I get over the hurdle of ordering a meal when some dishes have meat in them? The obvious answer would be duh, order one of the dishes without meat. Practice practice practice is your answer. You only get experience by experiencing things. So just go for it, what do you have to lose?
Got it Posted November 21, 2014 Posted November 21, 2014 Experience doesn't mean someone is good at it either. A sensitive partner is a sensitive partner and that is a winning quality. Plus there is definite positives to teaching a man how you like things and you are laying his foundation. Basically the rest of the women he sleeps with will either thank you or curse you. I would like to say that my ex husband has a few tricks courtesy of me that I am sure have come in handy. You are welcome!
OwMyEyeball Posted November 21, 2014 Posted November 21, 2014 Also a lot of women say they don't want to date inexperienced men. How do you get over this hurdle? Ethically, lying would be a wrong thing. So what happens? How do you break through the barrier of inexperience? Sometimes I wish I could reach through the screen and give some smacks on the head. Lovingly of course I had the same fears swirling in my head throughout most of my 20's. Turned out they were baseless. Plenty of missed opportunities. Oh so many missed opportunities! Ah well Your fears are irrational. The 'damage' they forecast is wildly out of proportion from the likely experience. There are no barriers.
Tayken Posted November 21, 2014 Posted November 21, 2014 By dating the other women who don't say this? http://lparchive.org/Professor-Layton-and-the-Curious-Village/Update%2003/9-16.png
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