Was this guy never interested in anything more?

[skyblue707]

Awhile back, my mom introduced me to this young guy that worked at the bank. Before I met him, she told me that he was telling her that he has just gotten out of a relationship with a woman that had 2 kids and that he didn't want one at the moment, but it was more for me to get out there and meet new people or possibly meet some of his friends to hang out since, I don't have much of a social circle. So, we met and he gave me his number, he would always respond to my text, but I always had to initiate it. I asked him what his weekend plans are and that he and his friends are going to a bar and he told me that I was more than welcome to join them. I guess I was waiting for him to contact me, but he never did...I don't know...I probably got way over my head that it was some sort of "date" rather than just meeting up and making new friends. After that, I never heard from him again. Or maybe he was never interested in a friendship?

[LisaSmith_1970]

Who really knows what went through his mind? Maybe he was repulsed by the way you looked.

[dragonfire13]

Ignore the insensitive comment above ^^

 

Since your mum told you that the guy wasn't looking for a relationship, I think you've answered your own question RE was he ever interested in anything more?

 

There was no real obligation for him to be texting you or initiating contact. Im sure he didn't mind being friends, but he probably did sense an interest on your part.

 

Don't take this as a "rejection" though as something romantic was never on the table anyway. You never know, he may even reach out to you again. If it helps, I dated a few weeks after I came out of a relationship...I realllly wasn't ready. This guy could have been Brad Pitt but it wouldn't have mattered, I would still have been uninterested. So it's better to be seeing someone who is ready to date again, then to try to force something to happen.