EllarMason Posted November 21, 2014 Posted November 21, 2014 This might be a long post but I would really appreciate feedback. Hi guys, I guess I should start by introducing myself. I'm an 18 year old college freshman student. I've never been in a "real" relationship with a girl, never had any experience sexually, and I've only kissed one girl in my life which happened only a few weeks ago, except it didn't quite work out.. The thing is though, I don't really struggle with talking to girls. At least, not anymore. At this point, I'm no longer scared to talk to girls or go on dates with them. I did struggle throughout my high school years and younger, but at my present state, I find that I can talk to girls pretty well and I'm pretty confident in both my physical appearance and my conversation. All of this would be fine except it hasn't really been working out for me. I still haven't found a girlfriend and, to be completely honest, as an 18 year old guy, I'm kind of tired of not getting laid. The problem with me, I guess, is that I get really into one girl and I kind of lose interest in other girls. And throughout this whole time I've always been looking for a relationship with them. I've always valued conversations and I've never really prioritized sex or physical things first. I obviously want to have sex, but I really also want to be in a romantic relationship. I know I probably sound so effeminate right now.. Except I might have placed a really high standard on the girls that I pursued, and for some reason or another I just never got to that level. The thing is though, I know that there have always been girls that have been attracted to me. I've just never been attracted to them back. Not that they don't look good but I've always leaned toward other girls that I need to pursue or something... My question is, at this point in my life (at 18 years old and a college freshman) do you guys think it should be a priority to be in a serious/real relationship? I could easily start talking to the few couple of girls that I know a attracted to me and I could probably get laid off of that. Except whenever they try to talk to me I just get turned off and ignore them.. I feel like if I really wanted to, I could get with those girls that I'm not that attracted to yet I know are attracted to me and it wouldn't be that hard. But I feel like I really don't have an interest in that other than the experience of sex.. Should I keep trying to be in a relationship with a girl that I really like or should I take relationships less seriously and just "have fun?"
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