Brownieduck87 Posted November 21, 2014 Posted November 21, 2014 So my ex and I met a year ago today. Quickly turned into regular dating, and eventually he moved in with me. Last month he dumped me. We'd been fighting about money--he kept falling short on his rent, but spending money on dumb stuff. He also didn't have much sexual interest in me close to the end, although he was very touchy-feely and cuddly. He blamed the lack of sex on the weed and tension from fighting but I felt like he was just not into me anymore. He said he still cared about me, hoped it wasn't the end, wanted to at least be friends, etc. He took a whole month to get out, not because he wanted to stay, but just logistics. We had a really bad fight and then the next day he'd disappeared and took the Xbox we bought together. I was pissed and wanted my half back, and he agreed to pay me. After I met up with him for that, I immediately missed him intensely. A day or so later I drunkenly messaged him, "I miss you." When I woke up, I decided to try out the no-contact rule. I did not talk to him for the next several days. Eventually he logged into facebook, saw my message, and said, "hi here i am! lol Hey could you message me *uncle*'s number? you there? miss you too btw" to which I eventually replied, with just the phone number. He responded, "yeah the voicemail isn't working thanks goodnight" Some of the messages were time stamped hours apart, like he'd kept sending new messages hoping to get a reply. Then I didn't hear anything whatsoever from him for almost 2 weeks, and today he showed up on my doorstep. It's our "anniversary" of the day we met. He brought me red roses, a big box of chocolate, and a card that read, "Happy Anniversary! I want you in my life. You're important to me. I care a great deal for you and i'm sorry for any wrong doings. I only had the best of intentions. Love always, *ex*." He showed up with this, hugged me, talked for a few minutes. Said I was on his mind. I felt awkward and caught off-guard. He said he'd have to get back to work pretty quickly, and gave me another hug and a kiss on the cheek. I tried to kiss him on his cheek, and he pulled away a little and I ended up awkwardly kissing his beard, and he laughed. Not sure if he thought I was going for lips, but I got a distinct impression he didn't want to kiss. I feel like the flowers and chocolate was an oddly romantic gesture considering we're broken up. But he also wasn't begging to be my boyfriend again...sounds like he wants a friendship, and for me to not be angry toward him. I am still missing the relationship and I was hoping no contact would help me to either get over it, or make him miss me badly enough that he'd want to get it together and win me over. I don't know what to do now. I think he'll probably try talking to me online in the next few days now that he's brave enough to show up like that. Do I start all over with no contact or should I do something different now?
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