Lambo91 Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 I met my ex during my senior year of college. We started dating the spring semester of my senior year. She was a sophomore. I had an extra semester to do the next fall. The summer went great, even though we were long distance. We had a great time my last semester. But when I graduated, we went back to long distance. Everything was fine, and we saw eachother at least twice a month. She turned 21 this past summer. We went to OCMD together to celebrate. She has some tough classes her senior year (this year) and I couldn't see her due to her having too much work and my new job from September to October. In early october, a week before she was going to come see me, she said she was confused, and didn't know what she wanted in life. We talked through it, she had panic attacks on the phone, but we went back to normal. Then, the morning of the day she was to come see me, she texted me that she wasn't coming. She said she was done with us. I told her that I understood. I blocked her on social media to prepare myself to move on. She called me later that day sobbing and saying that she had made a mistake. She regretted trying to break up with me. She was also hurt that I had blocked her and didn't fight for her. We agreed to give eachother some space that weekend. We talked the next week and everything seemed to go back to normal. I visited her that following weekend, and we had a great time. But after I left, she seemed a little distant, but blamed it on her having a lot of schoolwork to do. She is failing some of her classes, so it is understandable. She came to see me for a weekend two weeks later and we had a great time together. A few days after she left, we agreed to see eachother every two weeks. She asked me if I would mind if she went to visit some friends at a close college the weekend we weren't going to see eachother. Her ex boyfriend from HS, who is still in her group of friends goes to that college. I told her that I didn't like the idea of her going, getting drunk, and staying the night with friends at her ex boyfriend's place. She got very upset with me and said that she was done with me not trusting her. In the past, I have been untrusting when she goes out to parties and her ex will be there. It just makes me uncomfortable. We have argued about several times in the past. Things calm down, and I tell her that she should go, have a good time, I love her, and for her to be careful. The night she goes to that college, she texts me really drunk and is acting odd and cold. We text back and forth, and she says that she's done with me. I called her a few times the next day and texted her, but got no response until that night. She apologized for being mean to me but that she needed to focus on herself. We talked in depth the next day and she said that she didn't feel the same anymore. She needs to focus on her studies and she wants to experience being single and going out to bars without having to worry about if what she's doing will upset me. She said that she doesn't know what will happen in the future, we could end up together, but for right now she wants to focus on herself and her schoolwork since she is doing bad in school. She said that when we're together, everything feels right, but since we're long distance most of the time, she doesn't feel the same when we're apart. I mailed her stuff that she had left at my house back two days ago and she's putting my stuff in the mail sometime this week. I feel lost and empty. How can she love me but not want to make us work? I unfollowed her on social media as I was driving myself crazy looking at it. I am currently NC, but IDK what to do. We had planned on her moving down with me when she graduates in 1.5 years (she's doing an extra year), but it seems like that is not the plan now. Is NC the only thing for me to do? It seems like she feels we grew apart and she doesn't want to put the work of a LDR in. I feel like she just threw almost 2 years down the drain with no regrets.
EuTuBrute Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 Join the club. My ex of 2.5 years LDR threw in the towel as well. I would have never expected for her to do that because the relationship was very good. But yes. When someone shows who they are believe them
Author Lambo91 Posted November 21, 2014 Author Posted November 21, 2014 I've removed her on all social media. She keeps going out and getting trashed at bars even when she has an exam the next day. So much for focusing on her schoolwork. I'm just going to have to accept that the other reasons she gave me are BS as well. She just wasn't into me anymore, or at least not enough to maintain a long distance relationship. Letting go is tough... Talking to her every night and counting down the days between the weekends that I would see her became such a part of my life.
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