Re-established contact with a woman I met on Facebook

[Darren2013]

There's some good news. Earlier this week I was able to re-establish contact with a woman I met through Facebook. We haven't officially met in person but we have talked on the phone on and off for the last year. Somehow we lost touch with each other after January this year but she has contacted me saying she was thinking about me.

 

Now a little background. This woman is one candidate I may have potential with. On paper she fits the bill of what I am looking for. She is long distance. I live in Virginia and she lives in Kentucky. That's just the way I like it. She is older than me. I am 34 and she is 45.

 

She has 2 children that are in their mid to late 20s. One is 25 and the other is 27. So if we got into a relationship I would have minimal stepfather responsibilities.

 

She claims she doesn't want to marry again. She is divorced. She is very independent and works in a family business. She also doesn't like men calling her all the time and she complains that men try to rush her into a relationship and she notices that I am not like that.

 

We have the same spiritual beliefs. Also she would not mind sleeping in separate hotel rooms if we went on vacation together.

 

I would estimate my interest level in her to be 60%-65% while hers is probably about the same at this point. She has mailed me birthday cards and other gifts. And yes at times we have talked sexually on the phone until I suggested we take a break on that and chill.

 

The only reason my interest level isn't any higher than it is is because I have lukewarm physical attraction towards her. She is black and I usually prefer white women. But I have had the last 10 months or so to not make a big deal out of it. I mean if she is a good match for me in other ways then I kind of have to let it go that she is not my ideal race preference.

 

So she talked about how after the new year she will have more free time in January and would like us to meet halfway between where we live. So I said that's a good idea and that I need a few days to think it over and work out my schedule and see what timeframe in January is good for me too.

 

She also does not want more children which is good for me. We haven't even met in person so I try not to get my hopes up about what is going to happen. We may meet one time and realize the chemistry is not there. We'll see. But we do get along great and she claims to have this vision about the two of us writing short story books together.

 

She ends our texts and phone calls with I love yous and hugs and kisses. I don't have a problem with that but I'm not going to say it back unless it is confirmed down the road that we are going to be together.

 

I think reconnecting with her has also helped speed up the process of getting over my former crush at work. By the way the former crush does not even talk to me now. Doesn't surprise me and I don't care. I just do my job and if she has any secret plans to get me fired it won't work because I haven't done anything that breaks company policy. I have not harassed her in any way. I am moving on.

[Tayken]

She claims she doesn't want to marry again. She is divorced. She is very independent and works in a family business. She also doesn't like men calling her all the time and she complains that men try to rush her into a relationship and she notices that I am not like that.

 

What she tells you and what will eventually happen should things go south, are at complete end of the spectrum. Many women have told me that they are independent, don't need them, they are self sufficient, don't need them to parent the kids.....only to get vindictive when the emotions kick in later on

 

Go in with both feet at your own peril.

[Darren2013]

Things look more promising with this lady than the crush at work. I am more willing to take a risk on the Kentucky lady because it is long distance and we don't work together. The only thing is it may be more promising but my interest level in her is 60-65% while my interest level in my coworker is 75% but it was higher before in August and September at 85%.

 

So yeah I feel better risking with the Kentucky woman. She called me late last night and the night before. If either of us decides we want marriage at some point then we cross that bridge and break it off.

[Darren2013]

Ha I got a text from her just this morning saying she wishes I was over there to make love to her.

 

Well she might get her wish come January. After thanksgiving I get to sort out my work schedule to fine tune my leave time in January.

 

We will see what happens when we meet face to face. I'm going to book my own separate hotel room. I think 60s interest level is healthy when I haven't even met her in the flesh yet. Like I said I am not as keen on her as I am with my crush at work but I'll give it a chance and see what happens.