almond Posted November 21, 2014 Posted November 21, 2014 You're going to ruin your relationship acting like this. Your partner pays for most things...from what you've outlined, he can be quite generous. However, he has expressed that he is upset with your sense of entitlement, and the fact that you absolutely refuse to even offer to pay the large majority of the time. You justification for ignoring your partners feelings and continuing as is is basically: "Daddy told me men should pay." Why is it exactly that the men should pay? Why is it that you feel as though it's okay to allow someone to spend $200 on a day out, without you even offering to pay the parking or buy lunch? Because HE invited YOU? I'm embarrassed just reading this. If you carry on like this, we'll see you back here in a few weaks moaning that he never invites you anywhere anymore. It comes down to common decency and being considerate. These sorts of attitudes annoy me. Just be fair and kind to each other, and don't ignore someone while they're expressing that they're upset unless you want to lose them. 1
you_can_not_see_me Posted November 21, 2014 Posted November 21, 2014 Nah in the spirit of gender equality and harsh economic climate, I think things should be split evenly. At the very very least girls should offer to cover some of the cost. We live in a new age and there are new rules for dealing with dating expenses 2
you_can_not_see_me Posted November 21, 2014 Posted November 21, 2014 The one who invites should pay (or offer to pay at the very least), unless it's clear beforehand it's going to be a shared expense. That's good manners. This applies to any situation, not just dating. convenient since everyone expects men to do the inviting and asking 1
TigerLilly78 Posted November 21, 2014 Posted November 21, 2014 I hate when anyone wastes food since a lot of people in other countries aren't fortunate enough to have anything to eat. Try in this country as well.. was with a friend today waiting for her food basket 3 hour wait and over 50 showed up you don't have to travel over seas to see hunger these days its right here in the middle class poor..sorry that just stuck out to me..so had to say something..anyways continue..lol
Puie Posted November 21, 2014 Posted November 21, 2014 I don't like to assume anything. If I want them to pay by themselves, then I will make that clear beforehand. But if I can afford it and I really want them to go, then sure I'm going to invite them and pay for everything. Also read my post again. Where did I say men must pay for everything? The part about men was directed towards the OP, next time I'll add in it in. Everyone has different opinions on inviting and paying. In my general area, an invitation does not always mean a free meal unless the inviter specify so and vice versa. To OP: why not go Dutch on everything? Then your bf can't complain about you not paying your share, and you won't have to pay for things that he won't finish.
Thegreatestthing Posted November 21, 2014 Posted November 21, 2014 Traditionally men pay,your dad is still living In that era,it's certainly a good sign if a man pays for everything,he really prizes you etc etc. But now we earn our own money it would be really greedy indeed to not go halves.
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