flsgirl Posted March 17, 2005 Posted March 17, 2005 I just need to get this out of my system. It's going to be long. Writing these threads are very therapeutic for me; so bare with me. So I feel like I just got over a breakup and now I'm going through another one. Granted this one isn't nearly as miserable as the first, but needless to say it still hurts. About a year ago my b/f of 3 years dumped me out of the blue. Honestly there were no signs that this was what he was thinking. It basically came down to the fact that he hated where we moved to (across the country) and he never told me that he wanted to move. He ended up moving back home in our dead end town. It took me a year to get over him and throughout this period he would contact me and tell me he messed up and wanted me back. I finally moved on. A year later (on Halloween to be exact) I met a new guy in a bar. He just happened to be sitting next to me because his friend was trying to hit on my roommate. We ended up talking for a while and he finally asked for my number. I gave it to him thinking I would never hear from him. I didn't care anymore about men and thought all they wanted was a piece of ass. Well, the next night he called! As reluctant I was, we had a great conversation. The next weekend we met up and ever since we were pretty mesmerized with each other. We talked 3 times a day saw each a few times a week. It was great. He was new to the area and so I was excited to show him around. However, we realized there are some big differences between us. I mean like our political, religious and moral issues differed. We respected each other’s opinions and had great conversations about it. He was a bad boy I was a good girl. I had a hard time trusting him (even though he never gave me a reason to mistrust him). I just know from his past that he likes women and beautiful women like him. It was definitely intimidating. Both of us said that neither of us has ever dated anyone like each other. We never fought and had amazing sex. Even though we never actually talked about it, we were exclusive. We never referred to us as boyfriend and girlfriend even though our friends did. Well, four months later and everything ended. It was at the point that I needed to know where I stood with him. He works a good 70 hours a week and has a set group of friends. He's also super difficult to read. I couldn't tell how much he liked me. So I took him to the beach at night and finally asked him. I caught him off guard. I told him my feelings about everything, including my feelings of jealously of another girl (which I'm not a jealous person at all). He told me he understood where I was coming from and thanked me for being honest. He then went on this rant about how much he liked me and didn't want to lose me (not sure as a "girlfriend" or friend), and how much I inspired him. He said he didn't know what to do. All I wanted to know is how much of a priority I am. He then said he didn't have enough time for me and couldn't put in the effort that I deserve. So he said, "let's end this." I said okay and never cried in front of him. We went back to his apartment and I gathered all my stuff and left. He did that whole "I want to be friends and call me if you need anything." He says "I guess it wasn't meant to be. But maybe in ten years we'll meet again and it will be perfect." I haven't heard from him since. Even though it was a short period of time we were together, I'm still pretty hurt. I've cried a lot. It's odd because I know that I didn't want to have his babies (at least not how he is now) but I still wanted a relationship with him. It's completely contradicting. Anyway, I haven't heard from him. I'm not really sure what happened. I'm not sure if he was spitting bull **** at me or he was sincere. Some think that he thought I was trying break it off with him so he just ended it first. I don't know. I know that I'll be fine and what I need to do to get through this rough period. It's all so familiar. I hate this. I keep wondering if he even feels bad about it. I'm half expecting him to call and I'm half expecting him to be fine and with someone else now. Whatever, I hate being a girl! You overanalyze everything.
emotionsmessmeup Posted March 17, 2005 Posted March 17, 2005 Ok you are pining for man who wasnt even your bf????????? GIRL..GET OUT THERE MEET MORE PPL when you have ppl in your life..you dont NEED men.. you just want them...
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