Megggpie Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 Hello everyone, I've always been on here reading threads but never was a member until now. I just want to hear some other peoples opinions and experiences. So I have never been good with relationships, never having a successful one due to me spazzing out and pushing guys away. So I've been really trying to improve myself. Which I personally have been doing very well. I have met this new guy off of POF. We have been talking for about a month. The first 2 weeks we texted a lot, the last 2 weeks we have not due to us both being busy. So we only text a few times within the week. Which I honestly do not mind that. It has kept me from getting too attached too quickly. Since it is still the beginning and not expecting too much. We have hung out every weekend. Now here is want I want an opinion on. I still have my POF account and still regularly get on to see my new messages, so I will not lie about that. But I do like the guy i'm talking to a lot. Before when I have gotten on POF I noticed the guy i'm talking too hasn't been in a while. Well last night I got on and saw he was online last night. He was also online this morning as well. I'm not totally freaking out since I do get on myself to keep my options open. But I'm into the guy i'm talking to, and I know guys tend to be different. We have not talk about going exclusive, we just talked about how we are going to continue talking with our busy schedules, and if it comes a point we no longer want to talk, then we will bluntly tell one another. So as of now should I not really worry about the guy getting on POF? Like I said I still get on mine but men think different. And I used to have a tendency of spazzing out and expecting too much to early. So I feel him staying off POF after only a month of talking would be expecting too much. Does that seem like the right way of thinking? Thanks
sillyanswer Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 I'm not totally freaking out since I do get on myself to keep my options open. But I'm into the guy i'm talking to, and I know guys tend to be different. You're keeping your options open. I'm guessing he's doing the same.
Author Megggpie Posted November 20, 2014 Author Posted November 20, 2014 Can it still blossom into a relationship thou?
d0nnivain Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 Do you want it to blossom into a relationship? If you do stay off POF. When he sees that you stopped, maybe he will. When you are ready to talk about it, tel him you cancelled your account & you want to know where you stand.
Frank2thepoint Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 So as of now should I not really worry about the guy getting on POF? Like I said I still get on mine but men think different. And I used to have a tendency of spazzing out and expecting too much to early. First, what do you mean mean think different? You regularly check for messages, yet you expect him not to? Maybe that's what you mean by men think different, that it's okay for you to keep your options open, but not him. Second, you are spazzing out once again. You haven't talked about being exclusive, even though you guys text for a month, and have "hung out" each weekend of the month, yet expect this guy to read your mind and emotions that he shouldn't be keeping his options open.
Author Megggpie Posted November 20, 2014 Author Posted November 20, 2014 Thank you guys for your replies!!! I just need to check myself. And take a step back! No need to fret over this with just a month long causal relationship with a guy. I'll just have I wait and see what happens.
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