Toodaloo Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 I was looking through some random OLD profiles and saw a chap I quite liked the sound of. He has my sort of ethos about making the world a better place, is a bit off the wall and doesn't follow the "normal" path... So pretty much like me and I really liked that about him. I was chatting to my mother about it, as I have been thinking about signing up and she replied that I should never contact or date him because I would not be able to keep up with him financially... Please bear in mind that I do not consider his job role to be "out of my league" as I have dated within it before... My "lack" of earnings was never a problem during these relationships... Now, I suspect, reading between the lines, that he is in fact broke as I can't see him earning the amounts he would doing his job in the back waters of severely deprived countries for various charities (which is where he has been from what I can make out) as he would in the major cities in this country... Doesn't put me off at all as I really like the fact he has used his ability to do good rather than just earn money. I am not rich. I earn enough to support myself, my animals etc and go and have a bit of fun here and there. Sometimes its tight but it is very rare these days that I am "waiting for pay day". By the end of this year I will have no debt, at all, in any shape nor form. I am never going to be rich unless the stash of unchecked lotto tickets in my purse are holding a secret. I do however love my work. I love the people I work with and I have prospects to earn far more in a couple of years time than I do now. Still not as much as this chap would be if he continued to do what he does in a major city but not insignificant amounts. I am happy in my work. Its one of the few things that I really do not want to change, if I am blunt I am not going to change. So when it comes to dating, what is better that someone does a job they love, is good at, enjoys and is happy in, or that they earn mega bucks and are not so happy? Which is more "attractive"? Personally I would have thought that my pay doesn't matter as much as how I am regarded by the people I work with/ for/ work for me, that I am working and supporting myself happily with out any major financial worries or difficulties... Just pondering along here to get the general view point...
anne1707 Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 Shared values are far more important than pay packets. Get in touch with this man - it's you who would be dating him, not your mother
Author Toodaloo Posted November 20, 2014 Author Posted November 20, 2014 Shared values are far more important than pay packets. Get in touch with this man - it's you who would be dating him, not your mother Oh blimey I am not even logged on or anything although I have worked on a profile... I am not that far advanced! I just really liked that there seemed to be someone else out there that is a bit weird and doing what they can to change things for better rather than just be selfish. Gave me a bit of hope for the future if that makes sense. The ironic thing of it is that the ex of mine she likes the most was earning FAR more than I was at the time. She has no idea of the amounts as we never discussed it with her. I was only taking home around £800 a month at the time as I was working for a charity and he was bringing in around £5-6k a month depending on how good a month it was... We just bunged it all in the pot. It was never a problem nor an issue. It was never his or mine but ours. If we wanted to make big purchases we chatted about it or if one spent more on something than expected we said about it so the other knew. I did however sneak cash into a pot for Christmas so I could spoil him and the children rotten but I don't think he minded
Author Toodaloo Posted November 20, 2014 Author Posted November 20, 2014 Perhaps I should add that since then I have kept my finances separate. I built up debt after that ex and I split up and didn't want it to effect anyone else. All chaps (sounds like loads but 2 short term one long term in 10 years) since have moved into my home but I have maintained the bills etc and not gone for joint accounts. So its not as if I am scrounging or expecting anything... Dunno.
nofeelings22 Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 Guys don't care about how much money you make. 1
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