guest569 Posted November 21, 2014 Posted November 21, 2014 I was pretty hurt when I was dumped after a 2 month relationship where he had been dating someone else for that duration.. ouch! But first dates, meh. You're just meeting different people at this stage and it's nothing serious. If they ask specifically then you can open up about it.
guest569 Posted November 21, 2014 Posted November 21, 2014 My ex and I were together for 10 months and he revealed early on that he was meeting up with others and I wasn't put off by it. But looking back I think it's a bit sad that he was the ONLY man I had to meet before I was sure, whereas he met 10 different women before deciding on me. And some of these women he met after he had met me.. It was never going to work. Then again his view was that it takes time to get to know me and he couldn't possibly be sure so soon. That is true.. but I was sure! Now I feel 'Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option'.. I have really mixed feelings about multi dating. 2
central Posted November 21, 2014 Posted November 21, 2014 When I met my wife, we both multidated, and continued to do so for a few months. I was pretty sure about her, as I had dated (and multidated) quite a bit before meeting her. I was the first person she met, so she needed some experience to decide what and who was right for her. I continued dating others in case she decided someone else was a better match for her (and that would have been okay). In the end, we were both convinced we were really compatible and this was based on experience and a basis for rational (and emotional) comparison. 1
mysteryscape Posted November 21, 2014 Posted November 21, 2014 Now I feel 'Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option'.. I have really mixed feelings about multi dating. Before online dating -- I remember reading in some book an account by some woman of the man she ended up with. She was seeing him only, he was seeing his ex-to-be and another as well. She told him "I come to you freely and I expect the same from you." He dropped the others and everything was swell after that.
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