40 Fonzarelli Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 I've been rather frustrated lately with the lack of responses from OLD. I had some good pics of myself, mostly activity photos doing fun and interesting things. I've read everywhere how putting up a shirtless bathroom selfie photo is the worst thing to do. Well I decided to put it to the test just for the hell of it. Now by all means I am not a bodybuilder, but I do workout so I do have some definition. I left the profile the same and all of a sudden, I started to get replies. Comments? Would love to hear from everyone, especially the ladies and your opinions on these types of photos.
Phoe Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 If it works for you then that's great. I'm sure some women like it! I personally stayed away from profiles with those types of pics. Not for me 2
Author 40 Fonzarelli Posted November 20, 2014 Author Posted November 20, 2014 If it works for you then that's great. I'm sure some women like it! I personally stayed away from profiles with those types of pics. Not for me So you would dismiss a profile just because of one pic? What if other parts of his profile were good?
Ruby Slippers Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 (edited) I rule out guys with posed shirtless pictures. Kinda questionable but forgivable are natural shots with him shirtless, such as in the pool or on a boat. It's just TMI for a dating site, in my opinion, screams "hookup" to me. I've also read that guys with shirtless pictures get better response rates. I have to imagine those are women looking for casual hookups. But I don't imagine some guys would mind attracting those types of women, and if that's the case, it can't hurt to try. My only concern is that you might be filtering out relationship-minded women. Edited November 20, 2014 by Ruby Slippers 4
Jules Dash Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 This is not surprising. As I have said before, OLD seems to be mostly good for sex. Finding quality relationship material is the challenge.
MissBee Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 I personally dislike them but of course I don't speak for all women and I'm sure some like them. But I was just telling my roommate tonight that once I see mirror shirt less pics I just pass on by. I've looked at a guy's profile and thought, it would be good if he didn't have these shirt less pics. For me they're tacky and I don't see the point of advertising your body like that. So my response is usually: and then I ignore the profile. 2
Author 40 Fonzarelli Posted November 20, 2014 Author Posted November 20, 2014 What a shame because I really want a nice, relationship with a serious girl. But I don't get many responses. Maybe one of these women that like these kinds of pics will be relationship material? I mean who are we kidding, women in general are attracted to muscles. I'm not looking for casual hookups but some responses are better than none . Maybe I can take some pics at the beach or pool. Unfortunately that won't be until next summer.
Gloria25 Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 Exactly.... Unless the guy is on the beach or a boat, the selfie of him shirtless screams "I wanna hook-up" and/or "I'm a self-absorbed jerk". I feel the same way about females on Facebook (since some people use Facebook to date/meet people). All the half-naked pictures scream "attention ho", "I'm trying to entice guys with the hopes of sex", "I'm dumb cuz imagine if a prospective employer checks out my Facebook and sees that I have half-naked pictures up there", and "My body is on display for ANYONE (definitely not one man)". 5
Ruby Slippers Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 What a shame because I really want a nice, relationship with a serious girl. But I don't get many responses. Maybe one of these women that like these kinds of pics will be relationship material? I mean who are we kidding, women in general are attracted to muscles. I'm not looking for casual hookups but some responses are better than none . Maybe I can take some pics at the beach or pool. Unfortunately that won't be until next summer. Try it for a while and see how it goes. If it's not working, you can take down the shirtless pics later
irc333 Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 I rule out guys with posed shirtless pictures. Kinda questionable but forgivable are natural shots with him shirtless, such as in the pool or on a boat. It's just TMI for a dating site, in my opinion, screams "hookup" to me.. Unless the guy is on the beach or a boat, the selfie of him shirtless screams "I wanna hook-up" and/or "I'm a self-absorbed jerk". This. One could say this is the equivalent to when a woman posts a bikini picture from within a departement store dressing room or bathroom bikini selfie. I'm guessing she only put on the bikini, took the pic, and took it off. In a sense, its kind of desperate if you think about it. 2
lollipopspot Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 I've read everywhere how putting up a shirtless bathroom selfie photo is the worst thing to do. Well I decided to put it to the test just for the hell of it. Does it have to be a self-taken picture in the bathroom of all places? Why don't you stage a trip to a lake or the beach or someplace where you can take your shirt off and have a friend snap a "natural" picture of you? Classier women would probably respond o.k. to that, and you can still pick up the people who would have responded to the bathroom selfie. 2
PegNosePete Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 What a shame because I really want a nice, relationship with a serious girl. Then I suggest you project this image. Shirtless pics might get you more replies but do you want quantity or quality? I mean who are we kidding, women in general are attracted to muscles. Yes but if you think showing these muscles off in an online dating profile is going to attract a woman who is looking for a serious relationship, then you have some learning to do. Would James Bond put up a "douchey shirtless pic"? Do you think he would have any problems getting replies? The best thing you can do is to have good quality, well lit, smiling photos and an original, interesting, passionate profile. If you do that then you WILL get replies from genuine women interested in a serious relationship. But most people don't do that, even when given a lot of help. See my sig..... 1
irc333 Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 Funny, on the POF forums quite a few people have a, "If you got 'em, flaunt 'em" mentality. LOL I recall a woman who put up some photos of herself, though they weren't bathroom selfies, a lot of them were her at the beach or some kind of work out attire. That was about it. She was pretty blunt in her profile and short: "Most men don't read the profile, so if you like what you see, email me." Then I suggest you project this image. Shirtless pics might get you more replies but do you want quantity or quality? Yes but if you think showing these muscles off in an online dating profile is going to attract a woman who is looking for a serious relationship, then you have some learning to do. Would James Bond put up a "douchey shirtless pic"? Do you think he would have any problems getting replies? The best thing you can do is to have good quality, well lit, smiling photos and an original, interesting, passionate profile. If you do that then you WILL get replies from genuine women interested in a serious relationship. But most people don't do that, even when given a lot of help. See my sig.....
PegNosePete Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 Funny, on the POF forums quite a few people have a, "If you got 'em, flaunt 'em" mentality. LOL Not that I've ever seen. In fact quite the opposite. Maybe it depends on the forum you visit? I mostly read profile reviews. I recall a woman who put up some photos of herself, though they weren't bathroom selfies, a lot of them were her at the beach or some kind of work out attire. That was about it. She was pretty blunt in her profile and short: "Most men don't read the profile, so if you like what you see, email me." Yeah and I'm sure she had a lot of quality guys looking for genuine relationships messaging her
Andy_K Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 I got more messages and replies on pof with a shirtless pic up last time I tried it. Met my last girlfriend during that time too. Haven't dine it for a while now but may give it another try at some point. Give it a shot for a month or two and see what happens. Chances are the girls who dismiss guys with a topless pic are the same fussy girls with a laundry list of requirements who would dismiss you for something else instead or stop responding soon anyway. You probably will lose out on very few dates and gain a lot more. The ones who will respond you know aren't judgemental, and might just be they're more down to earth and put more emphasis on what you're like in person. 1
hotpotato Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 It doesnt phase me. Maybe because im kinda into the workout thing. Ive spent a lot of time on other sites looking at "douchey" shirtless selfies. I used to date a lot. If you meet a man on pof, the chances are very high that hes looking for sex, shirtless selfie or not. Maybe im less likely to judge a book by its cover.
gaius Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 It's something that can make some women feel uncomfortable. Which would force you to spend more time making her comfortable again. Like maybe I'm wrong but I think if a shirtless guy put in the extra effort to make Ruby feel she wasn't just a hookup and was special she would come around to it. That's the only real "downside" per se. Having a nice enough body to get away with shirtless pictures is a huge plus.
PegNosePete Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 and put more emphasis on what you're like in person. I like how you went from girls who like shirtless pics, to liking you for your personality 1
martaldn Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 I've been rather frustrated lately with the lack of responses from OLD. I had some good pics of myself, mostly activity photos doing fun and interesting things. I've read everywhere how putting up a shirtless bathroom selfie photo is the worst thing to do. Well I decided to put it to the test just for the hell of it. Now by all means I am not a bodybuilder, but I do workout so I do have some definition. I left the profile the same and all of a sudden, I started to get replies. Comments? Would love to hear from everyone, especially the ladies and your opinions on these types of photos. maybe because no one has ever seen Fonzarelli shirtless 2
nofeelings22 Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 I like how you went from girls who like shirtless pics, to liking you for your personality Pete, it's all stages.... 1) Girl takes intial interest based on looks 2) Girl double checks herself by talking to you to be sure you don't suck 3) You go out and see how the chemistry is for longer periods of time 4) You bang and see how the sexual compatibility is (ha ha) 5) You may go exclusive 6) You may get married But, without #1, you don't get to any of the others. You've got to look your best to get started. 1
Sunfire73 Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 I don't mind as long as there are other decent pics as well. It does come as douchey, but if there is substance I will give it a chance. My bf now had one shirtless bathroom pic in his Match page.
LisaSmith_1970 Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 I personally don't like them. I always look at a guys face first.
LisaSmith_1970 Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 Pete, it's all stages.... 1) Girl takes intial interest based on looks 2) Girl double checks herself by talking to you to be sure you don't suck 3) You go out and see how the chemistry is for longer periods of time 4) You bang and see how the sexual compatibility is (ha ha) 5) You may go exclusive 6) You may get married But, without #1, you don't get to any of the others. You've got to look your best to get started. Yes! These are the guidelines!!! 1
Gloria25 Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 Pete, it's all stages.... 1) Girl takes intial interest based on looks 2) Girl double checks herself by talking to you to be sure you don't suck 3) You go out and see how the chemistry is for longer periods of time 4) You bang and see how the sexual compatibility is (ha ha) 5) You may go exclusive 6) You may get married But, without #1, you don't get to any of the others. You've got to look your best to get started. I like this list....I think it pretty much lists a realistic series of events that happens when a chick meets a guy...
Toodaloo Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 So you would dismiss a profile just because of one pic? Yes I would... If other parts were good I would assume it was bull to get into my knickers... If you are dating me your body is mine to enjoy not every Tom, Dick and Henrietta! Would you want to seriously date a girl who put up pictures in her bra? No you would just look to bang and jump ship. Same principles... If you are slapping up pics like that you are only going to attract flakey girls. they are the ones who will hurt you and use and abuse you and be shameless about doing it. Try a tighter shirt instead, still clothed but showing off a little bit... Shows a bit of dignity.
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