MistaYates Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 My girlfriend says she loves me, we hang out all the time. But there is always an excuse for no sex. She says the condoms hurt and she has no birth control for sex. She says shes never used a condom before me, she always used BC in her past. There were also the excuses of "I'm too tired" But im just scared if i dont use a condom, i'll get her pregnant. Should i rely on Birth control? Were both 20. Idk what to do. I've talked to her about it, but she just gets mad and i feel like it only makes things worse. I feel like the more i try to talk about it, she wont want to do it more. We have sex like once or twice a week. She doesnt have birth control right now so she says. But idk it hurts knowing my girlfriend doesnt want to make love to me. I dont cry for it, i just want it every now and then. Its currently been a week since we last had sex.
Art_Critic Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 Use plenty of bottle lube like Astroglide with a condom, and yes you need to use them.. What does she say when you ask her about it, and don't ask her about it when you are hot and heavy.. ask her when there is no sexy time on the schedule and you both can discuss it without her having to turn you down.
CarrieT Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 Its currently been a week since we last had sex. You are not going to get a lot of sympathy if it has only been a week. And she is going to break up with you if you keep pestering her about it. Some people only like sex once a month or so. In my last relationship, I broke up with my BF after not having sex for 18 months. There are people on this site who have been in sexless marriages for YEARS. One week? That ain't nuth'n... 2
newmoon Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 You are not going to get a lot of sympathy if it has only been a week. And she is going to break up with you if you keep pestering her about it. Some people only like sex once a month or so. In my last relationship, I broke up with my BF after not having sex for 18 months. There are people on this site who have been in sexless marriages for YEARS. One week? That ain't nuth'n... i agree w/you, but in this case he's 20...
Author MistaYates Posted November 20, 2014 Author Posted November 20, 2014 i agree w/you, but in this case he's 20... Yeah, i mean in our age, wouldnt she have more of a sex drive? Shes always wanting to hang out, but never making love..
CarrieT Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 Yeah, i mean in our age, wouldnt she have more of a sex drive? Not necessarily at all. Libidos ebb-and-flow throughout one's life. I was at my horniest (and most active) in my early 40s. Seriously, the more you ask her about it, the less you are likely to get any. 1
Author MistaYates Posted November 20, 2014 Author Posted November 20, 2014 Not necessarily at all. Libidos ebb-and-flow throughout one's life. I was at my horniest (and most active) in my early 40s. Seriously, the more you ask her about it, the less you are likely to get any. I only ask her if she isnt attracted to me, then whats the point? I dont pester her about it that much. But i just hope i didnt screw up my chances.
CarrieT Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 I only ask her if she isnt attracted to me, then whats the point? A person can be attracted to another and not want to have to have sex. I dont pester her about it that much. How much is "not that much?" But i just hope i didnt screw up my chances. In what way?
Author MistaYates Posted November 20, 2014 Author Posted November 20, 2014 A person can be attracted to another and not want to have to have sex. How much is "not that much?" In what way? Lets just say, i dont want to compare myself to her past, because the past is the past, but she had much more sex with her ex than me. Lets just say that. She told me they had sex almost every day, sometimes two or three times a day. I lost my virginity to her, so i can see how my attractiveness in sex can be low. Since idk what im doing.
BluEyeL Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 This is crazy. She just has a lower libido than you. It's an extremely common problem and you're making it into something bigger than it is. Women's libido is not higher when they're 20. Twice a week and you're crying so much? What don't you talk to a doctor, someone who can inform you on this extremely common problem, before you destroy your relationship with accusations.
Author MistaYates Posted November 20, 2014 Author Posted November 20, 2014 This is crazy. She just has a lower libido than you. It's an extremely common problem and you're making it into something bigger than it is. Women's libido is not higher when they're 20. Twice a week and you're crying so much? What don't you talk to a doctor, someone who can inform you on this extremely common problem, before you destroy your relationship with accusations. The fact is, her past relationships had more sexual history. Me on the other hand, i lost my V-card to her. So maybe im not that attractive than her past.
Thegreatestthing Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 It's not the virginity thing,unless you really don't know what you're doing. She just probably had better sexual chemistry with her ex,you can't really change this all you can do is try and make her horny.
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