What Would You Call This ?

[reed49]

HI

the newbie here Steve .would like input on this [ from both guys n females ].

i'm in a relationship [ sort of ].See i dated this woman for a couple of yrs starting around 200 , things went bad in 2012 [ she cheated on me .we broke up after i found out for sure.I left the area for a year to help a family member , before i left the x and i were seeing each other [ the guy she cheated on me with broke it off with her].K as i was away we spoke via phone a-lot .

Now a year later i came back [ Dec. 22 to be exact ].i stayed with her a couple of weeks until i got my own place ,job etc . .we date [ as she calls it ]

ME i'm lost in space .since i've been back to the area we did 2 events together [ outside ].She has a son in college and he's on the football team so she goes to visit him, see the game no problem their .

She's been constantly hanging out with this married couple [ no problem their ]now her girl-friend [ the married one ] will call her to go shopping BUT it's all the time and it's never an hour , 2,3, noo it's 5-7 hours .it's on weekends [ because everyone works during the week ] .My girl will call and tell me she'll stop by after shopping .doesn't , next day calls just says she went right home to bed .she'll tell me ''tomorrow i'll make dinner and we'll watch a movie '' we don't she'll call me at dinner time telling m ''don't worry about me for dinner BUT i'll see you later on '' doesn't .i bring to her attention she's stood me up , she disagrees .we definatly have no sexual relations [ well extremly rarely ].she's tired,etc .

We don't do holidays together .Thanksgivings comming up .a friend of mine [ who she knows ] invited us over for dinner.i ask ,she says she wont be around [ she'll be with her family ] doesn't invite me [ not that i'd go ] but just show she cares .Christmas we don't have plans BUT she already told me she'll be going to her married friends place to exchange gifts .

IF i see her 2 times during the week [ weekdays ]it's a miracle ,and we only live 10 min from each other .

soo we do nothing together ,we have no plans for anything [ including holidays ],no sexual relations [ extremly rare ]no future plans on maybe living together,marrage,nada ..

ME latly i've been taking this whole relationship as a joke .to her we have a real relationship .i'm sorry i just don't feel it

[J2911]

After reading this , to me it sounds like you are taking this relationship serious and she is the one who is taking it as a joke. It seems to me like something more that you aren't visually seeing is occurring behind your back. She sounds like she doesn't even care about you and she is inconsiderate all the way around. I say move on from this bc it doesn't sound as if she wants to even date you and would rather date the married couple. Good luck !