LisaSmith_1970 Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 Should I be insulted? I mean after 3 great dates, he updates his profile pic with some wedding pic from a friends wedding!? I was like wtf? Plus, we are STILL talking. I know we are not exclusive/living together, but come on, is he still looking? I still have my profile up, but have no desire to talk to anyone else or even log on. 1
central Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 Only 3 dates? You're a long way from being exclusive, so he has every right to do as he pleases with his profile, and even to contact and date other women if he wishes. If you want exclusivity, you should raise the question - but if you do it this soon, he may just run. 2
skyblue707 Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 Guy sounds like a total douche! Why don't you update your profile pic-pick one that is really sexy- see if he likes it.
Ducky71 Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 If you're not exclusive, then what's the problem?
ExpatInItaly Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 Yes, I'd assume he's still looking. Did he say he was only seeing you? Unless and until you decide to date exclusively, I'd assume he's dating other girls too.
Ducky71 Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 Guy sounds like a total douche! Why don't you update your profile pic-pick one that is really sexy- see if he likes it. Yeah, that's the answer...play childish games... 1
Tayken Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 Social media drama...what else is new, and why were you back on there in the first place considering you said this I still have my profile up, but have no desire to talk to anyone else or even log on. ?
Assasda Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 Youre not exclusive. The guy probably thinks that you arnt really having a great time on dates
mysteryscape Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 If you're not exclusive, then what's the problem? It's not like human emotions get turned on or off just by labeling something as "exclusive" or "not exclusive." The fact that he updated his photo is a sign that he is "still looking." Not exactly something you want to hear/know about a partner you're enthusiastically "dating." It doesn't really matter whether you have an "exclusivity" contract. The emotional response is natural and has nothing to do with what you have a "right" to feel. It's kind of like the response if you're with somebody and they are constantly ogling others. You may not have a "right" to feel bothered but if you do feel bothered, it is just a basic emotion. 2
mysteryscape Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 Should I be insulted? I mean after 3 great dates, he updates his profile pic with some wedding pic from a friends wedding!? I was like wtf? Plus, we are STILL talking. I know we are not exclusive/living together, but come on, is he still looking? I still have my profile up, but have no desire to talk to anyone else or even log on. I can see why this would you bother you. If he's on the same page with you, he's not thinking very clearly about it. I would talk with him about it, tell him you're not looking for anyone else and that you would like the same from him. He may or may not bail if you do that. Be prepared for the worst outcome. Otherwise, you will just have to put up with it until he spontaneously has a revelation that he isn't looking any longer. 1
myothernic2 Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 It's not like human emotions get turned on or off just by labeling something as "exclusive" or "not exclusive." The fact that he updated his photo is a sign that he is "still looking." Not exactly something you want to hear/know about a partner you're enthusiastically "dating." It doesn't really matter whether you have an "exclusivity" contract. The emotional response is natural and has nothing to do with what you have a "right" to feel. It's kind of like the response if you're with somebody and they are constantly ogling others. You may not have a "right" to feel bothered but if you do feel bothered, it is just a basic emotion. You are so right. People on here are always saying "you're not exclusive sooo". Yeah well, it's still not a good feeling at all. 2
skyblue707 Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 You are so right. People on here are always saying "you're not exclusive sooo". Yeah well, it's still not a good feeling at all. That's what I'm saying, it ain't a good feeling! Kind of like saying, "I haven't met the right guy yet" on a 3rd date, sure you're not officially together, but it's one if those things you shouldn't say. LisaSmith-You didn't lick his ass did you?
Author LisaSmith_1970 Posted November 20, 2014 Author Posted November 20, 2014 That's what I'm saying, it ain't a good feeling! Kind of like saying, "I haven't met the right guy yet" on a 3rd date, sure you're not officially together, but it's one if those things you shouldn't say. LisaSmith-You didn't lick his ass did you? That is disgusting! I don't lick guys asses on a 3rd date.
Nyc_user Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 That is disgusting! I don't lick guys asses on a 3rd date. then on what date do u do it
Nyc_user Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 It's not like human emotions get turned on or off just by labeling something as "exclusive" or "not exclusive." The fact that he updated his photo is a sign that he is "still looking." Not exactly something you want to hear/know about a partner you're enthusiastically "dating." It doesn't really matter whether you have an "exclusivity" contract. The emotional response is natural and has nothing to do with what you have a "right" to feel. It's kind of like the response if you're with somebody and they are constantly ogling others. You may not have a "right" to feel bothered but if you do feel bothered, it is just a basic emotion. I agree
mysteryscape Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 One or two posters who seem to agree with me made a nasty and lewd crack to the OP. Why?
ScreaminEagle Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 One or two posters who seem to agree with me made a nasty and lewd crack to the OP. Why? Read her post history, she is not exactly the type of person to bring home to the family for Thanksgiving IMO.
mysteryscape Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 haven't read her posts before, what she came up with here seemed pretty reasonable. 1
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