maryyy Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 We live 2 hours apart from each other and we talk every day during the day. However, today was different. He was working and then he stopped replying my texts. The thing is, he works every day and he always finds a way to text me when he's working (from time to time, maybe it takes 1h between the texts). Btw, he works at a science lab. Also, he always has 1 or 2 breaks, and he always texts me during that time as well. However, today my boyfriend didn't say anything during 7 hours. For the first time in 11 months. I mean, how is it possible that he didn't get 1 minute to text me during that time? I asked him this, and he told me that he didn't really have time, but suddenly he started to contradict himself and said that he had time but didn't remember to text me. I found this really odd since he has always remembered to text me...but not today? So he really didn't have an explanation for me... Curiously, since we started dating and talking about what makes us mad and feel bad, I always told him that the worst thing somebody could do to me was ignoring me for hours, because my EX used to be like that and that's one of the reasosn why broke up with him. And now he decided to do this for the first time...without any reason... We also have been fighting more (you can read about it on my other threads), so, I don't know, I honestly think he doesn't have the courage to break-up with me so he's trying to make me break up with him instead. Any opinions?
smackie9 Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 Yup your gut is probably right. I'm sure you have the courage to breakup with him. Do it.
GemmaUK Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 Maybe you text a lot and he is feeling smothered? 7 hours is nothing. 3-5 days of no texts or contact is a bit odd but I wouldn't even think to question 7 hours. 3
ExpatInItaly Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 I would take it as a sign that he is busy at work and can't really keep up with the level of communication you expect throughout his work day. As another poster pointed out, he might be feeling a bit smothered too. Give him a break. Give some breathing space. If it starts happening consistently, you would have a reason to be concerned.
Assasda Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 He's sick of you trying to control his every move 3
Zahara Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 He didn't ignore you though. He just didn't send you a text message. One day out of 11 months. Judging from your other threads about you having low self-esteem and being an insecure person, it's no wonder you are so needy. And you broke up with him 5 days ago. You are back together again? 2
Author maryyy Posted November 19, 2014 Author Posted November 19, 2014 So maybe the best option is to take a break and see how he reacts while we don't talk for a few days?
d0nnivain Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 You are your own worst enemy. Your BF hasn't talk to you for 7 hours? Boo hoo. I haven't spoken to my husband for 12 hours. He's working. There's no need to be in constant contact & it would be annoying. For him to back off is not automatically a sign of trouble other then your insecurities are highlighted. Calm down. Stop asking your BF insipid Qs like does he like other girls. Stop assuming he's only with you because he can't do any better. Focus on the good things about your relationship -- why you like each other. Be in the moment. Cherish what you do have. Remain calm for the rest of the night. Tomorrow, tell him & say you are looking forward to seeing him on __________ insert the date / location of your next get together. When you see him be flirty, fun, jovial, lighthearted & upbeat. that will do more wonders for your relationship than constantly nagging him for reassurances. 2
stillafool Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 I can't imagine someone getting upset because they haven't heard from you in 7 hours. Needy much? If I were him breaking up would definitely be on my mind if you made me feel bad about having 7 hrs free from you.
Cakess Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 Yeah I have to agree with the others...you sound really clingy and out of 11 months I'd be going crazy if I were you. Give him some space and just relax.
DrReplyInRhymes Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 We live 2 hours apart from each other and we talk every day during the day. However, today was different. He was working and then he stopped replying my texts. The thing is, he works every day and he always finds a way to text me when he's working (from time to time, maybe it takes 1h between the texts). Btw, he works at a science lab. Also, he always has 1 or 2 breaks, and he always texts me during that time as well. However, today my boyfriend didn't say anything during 7 hours. For the first time in 11 months. I mean, how is it possible that he didn't get 1 minute to text me during that time? I asked him this, and he told me that he didn't really have time, but suddenly he started to contradict himself and said that he had time but didn't remember to text me. I found this really odd since he has always remembered to text me...but not today? So he really didn't have an explanation for me... Curiously, since we started dating and talking about what makes us mad and feel bad, I always told him that the worst thing somebody could do to me was ignoring me for hours, because my EX used to be like that and that's one of the reasosn why broke up with him. And now he decided to do this for the first time...without any reason... We also have been fighting more (you can read about it on my other threads), so, I don't know, I honestly think he doesn't have the courage to break-up with me so he's trying to make me break up with him instead. Any opinions? Haha, ok, I'm gonna go out on a really thin limb. If this is the first happening in 11 months, then maybe it's him. You did say his habit is to respond to you rather quickly Maybe he's just losing interest, or talking with you is sickly. If this is something that is seriously bothering you, Then maybe you could try something new. Try to text him trivia, or funny pictures or songs that are a hit, But don't be so hard on him if he just doesn't give a ****. 1
stillafool Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 Yeah, or just leave him alone and let him get some fresh air.
Tayken Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 He's sick of you trying to control his every move I reckon this is right...bingo. I had a FWB that will send 1 - 2 words fishing texts, I just ignored them
Author maryyy Posted November 20, 2014 Author Posted November 20, 2014 I didn't text him during those 7 hours. The last text I sent said something like "Ok, good luck with that!" (He was busy doing some stuff). I was the last one texting. Then I waited for him to reply to that... When I realized it has been 7 hours since we talked
LilKimmy Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 That doesn't require a reply. It's not a question. It's a comment and depending on the context it could be interpreted as rude. Regardless, he was working and it's only 7 hours. I didn't text him during those 7 hours. The last text I sent said something like "Ok, good luck with that!" (He was busy doing some stuff). I was the last one texting. Then I waited for him to reply to that... When I realized it has been 7 hours since we talked 1
CarrieT Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 Seven hours is NOTHING. Seven DAYS might be a concern. Way too needy... 1
Mugen01 Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 7 hours only? My girl can handle two weeks and she still adores me. Maybe she respects my time, I do not know. But in your situation, doesn't that sound too clingy?
90s kid Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 Expecting him to text you every single day while he's working is an unreasonable expectation. You seem very insecure about your relationship if you're questioning his feelings after 1 day without texting. Give him some room to breathe.
MidwestUSA Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 How did you get back together after just breaking up? Looking at your history, you did the right things a few days ago. Let this guy go and get yourself under control. You're an emotional wreck. You'll drive him off eventually, so make it sooner and get some professional help. Masturbating to Facebook? Falling in love because he's taking a class? I'm shocked he's stayed around this long with you accusing him of ridiculous things out of thin air. You need to learn to not project your past experiences into your present. You're going to scar this guy for any future relationships he may have.
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