Darren2013 Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 Have you ever known guys who go out with women not because they are hoping for sex or a relationship but they are only going out with women in the hopes of having an opportunity to reject them? I think that is the point I have come to. I'm not even sure if my end goal is to even get laid even one time but only to have an opportunity to write her off once she shows high interest. It is just a knee jerk reaction. Don't ask me why. Once a woman shows any sign of genuine interest then there's my opportunity to write her off and go NEXT! I think my goal for the rest of my short life is to see how many women I can write off. See how many women I can decline sexual offers from. See how many women I can decline a relationship from. And I can decline politely by saying "I'm happy to just be friends" and then going into strict NC mode after that. Getting laid is not the main goal. The main goal is to win at the game of who is going to write off who first. You ever know anyone like that? Doc Love dating system helps a little. So do some of the PUA rules. The only difference between me and the PUA followers is I have a different reason for applying the rules. They are doing it to get laid. I am doing it to see how many women I can successfully write off.
Gloria25 Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 Wow, ever hear of karma? What you put out into the universe somehow boomerangs right back at ya... I don't have time for that, dating takes so much out of my schedule already...I'm not gonna put all that work just to tell somebody to kiss off. But I'm glad to see there's people out there who are willing to play with other people's emotions just to satisfy their ego and/or to get back at someone who burnt them. 1
Author Darren2013 Posted November 19, 2014 Author Posted November 19, 2014 I don't believe in that karma stuff. I ain't afraid of it.
Rejected Rosebud Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 Darren, this idea of yours along with ALL the other ones about relationships is completely WRONG. JSYK. 3
Gloria25 Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 I don't believe in that karma stuff. I ain't afraid of it. Good, I'm glad to hear that...I wish you luck in your endeavor.
Gloria25 Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 BTW, When you begin this endeavor, can you update us? Are you gonna start out with your crush at work? I mean, that's a good start there.
Author Darren2013 Posted November 19, 2014 Author Posted November 19, 2014 BTW, When you begin this endeavor, can you update us? Are you gonna start out with your crush at work? I mean, that's a good start there. I think I pretty much took care of that last week with the not agreeing to meet her anywhere. Anyway my mind is shifting away from her for now. Talking to other women also helps take my mind off her temporarily.
OwMyEyeball Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 Have you ever stopped and asked yourself why you have such a strange fascination with women and rejection? It's pretty bizarre ... bordering on pathological. Begs the question ... what was your relationship with your mother like? 5
Gloria25 Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 I think I pretty much took care of that last week with the not agreeing to meet her anywhere. Anyway my mind is shifting away from her for now. Talking to other women also helps take my mind off her temporarily. Well, I hate to disappoint you, but you are not following your plan. If I'm correct, you want to reject a sexual offer and/or an offer of a RL. Your crush just invited you to coffee and then wings. I believe you need to go ahead and accept an invite or maybe make an offer yourself, then and only then when she makes that move you drop her like a hot pocket and watch the color drip from her face. Maybe if she runs away and cries, that'll be even better!!! Where's the emoticon for "hands clapping"? 1
Author Darren2013 Posted November 19, 2014 Author Posted November 19, 2014 Workplace crush would be an exception to the rules because who knows what retaliation she might come up with after rejecting her. She may then plot ways to make alot of trouble for me at work. So I won't even bother with her.
aussietigerwolf Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 so im curious... What do you get out of this? A sense of power? Revenge? How far are you going to go? Do you want these women upset? Anoyed? What? 2
Author Darren2013 Posted November 19, 2014 Author Posted November 19, 2014 so im curious... What do you get out of this? A sense of power? Revenge? How far are you going to go? Do you want these women upset? Anoyed? What? I want them upset but as long as they don't work with me I don't have to worry about the risk of them plotting to get me fired. Actually the prospect of them killing me in retaliation is more preferable than plotting to ruin me professionally.
Gloria25 Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 Workplace crush would be an exception to the rules because who knows what retaliation she might come up with after rejecting her. She may then plot ways to make alot of trouble for me at work. So I won't even bother with her. Well, still, please keep us updated...I'll get my popcorn ready. 1
aussietigerwolf Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 Well, still, please keep us updated...I'll get my popcorn ready. absolutely, I'll bring enough for us both 4
Gloria25 Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 Have you ever stopped and asked yourself why you have such a strange fascination with women and rejection? It's pretty bizarre ... bordering on pathological. Begs the question ... what was your relationship with your mother like? You know, there's a radio personality I used to listen to. He brags about having X amount of women he gets laid with. He also uses "insults" to throw them off their game and to go after him. Eh, but he only goes after young, naive girls and I think his status as an entertainer and his money is why he can get away with it. Anywho, now and then he brings up this story of his high school sweet heart dumping him for some guy that worked as a waiter. I don't know if the story is just for the radio or is true...But, they joke that she's the reason why he just has this endless desire to bed and humiliate women. Well, life sucks. Crappy things happen to all of us. I think we can lemons into lemonade or suck on the sour things. Let's say women who have been sexually assaulted. That is a horrible experience. I couldn't imagine how much that would destroy a person. Well, the women that come out of that go in two basic directions.... (1) They don't move past it, and cannot function. Worst, they get married and/or have kids - then make their husband "pay" for what that guy who did to them. They withhold sex and/or get fat and there you go.... (2) They fight back and help others. They go to their local lawmakers and advocate laws to better protect victims. They go and speak at high schools, colleges, etc. to warn women of signs of danger, red flags, and what to do to protect themselves. So, which would you be? #1 or #2? I rather be #2, because while what happened to me would be terrible, why would I marry some guy and take out my anger on an innocent person? I would want to help others, I wouldn't want them to go through what I went through. So, in life, when bad has been done to you, you can either: (1) Be the one who dishes it out like it was dished to you; or (2) The person who wants to make a change - especially to help/protect others.
Konochicha Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 Darren..you're no one special. Most, if not all guys on this forum have been burned by women. And coincidentally, women have been burned by men. But then...some of these men and women who get burned a few times end up getting married, having happy relationships, and if they're lucky, growing old together. Finding love is possible, but never easy. I have nothing against you not taking dating seriously, but in all honesty, playing women like this isn't going to take away the pain you CLEARLY have in your heart. I can feel you hurting for a relationship so much. But these PUA techniques don't work. Ftr, they only work if you're of a high status in life. And even then it's tricky. You don't need to learn how to break women's hearts. You need to learn not to let a woman walk all over you. If a woman does something that oversteps your boundaries...don't tolerate it. If she disrespects you, don't tolerate it. Don't settle for whatever it is in your area...learn to accept behaviors that make you comfortable. Don't be a doormat. Have a life outside of dating...it doesn't matter if you're a multi-millionaire or a gamer...or a pianist. Just don't focus solely on her. Remember...playing these games doesn't take away the pain...but it doesn't hurt to have a little hook up every now and then. 2
Gloria25 Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 Darren..you're no one special. Most, if not all guys on this forum have been burned by women. And coincidentally, women have been burned by men. But then...some of these men and women who get burned a few times end up getting married, having happy relationships, and if they're lucky, growing old together. Finding love is possible, but never easy. I have nothing against you not taking dating seriously, but in all honesty, playing women like this isn't going to take away the pain you CLEARLY have in your heart. I can feel you hurting for a relationship so much. But these PUA techniques don't work. Ftr, they only work if you're of a high status in life. And even then it's tricky. You don't need to learn how to break women's hearts. You need to learn not to let a woman walk all over you. If a woman does something that oversteps your boundaries...don't tolerate it. If she disrespects you, don't tolerate it. Don't settle for whatever it is in your area...learn to accept behaviors that make you comfortable. Don't be a doormat. Have a life outside of dating...it doesn't matter if you're a multi-millionaire or a gamer...or a pianist. Just don't focus solely on her. Remember...playing these games doesn't take away the pain...but it doesn't hurt to have a little hook up every now and then. I think she ^^ means this: Do Women Like Jerks? - AskMen
Konochicha Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 I think she ^^ means this: Do Women Like Jerks? - AskMen As a male...I find it hard to take AskMen seriously, it's mostly PUA crap but there's a central theme. Balance. Let me try to explain. There are some people you literally CAN NOT attract by any means. For instance, as an intellectual, I can not attract simplistic country folks. Our lifestyles are so very different there would be no point in conversation. The ones you can attract, however, you can't go in too fast. Be easy and casual, and if things get awkward, enjoy the awkwardness, laugh it up. If she does something you don't like...for instance, talk on her phone while you're on a date with her...tell her to put the phone down. Unless it's an emergency, texting can wait. If she doesn't do what you say...DROP HER LIKE A HOT POTATO. Walk away. Don't negotiate. Don't reason with her. Drop her. This will send a message that no one is gonna waste your time. Girls will be extremely picky when it comes to online dating. Beware, there's a REASON they are online to date. There are a few gems, but mostly(and this goes for men) a bunch of rough edges. Learn to exude confidence and comfortability with who you are, and don't try to relate to things you CAN'T relate to. Remember, if you have to try hard to win a girl's attention, then she isn't for you. So prepare to be disappointed, but when(or if) you do find her, it'll make the painful journey worth it. During that time, why not enjoy a few random hookups? 1
Allumere Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 (edited) I can understand the desire for you to lash out at someone who has intentionally hurt you but to actively want to hurt the feelings of another person just because is some F'd up stuff. Edited November 19, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator removed derogatory remark 1
Konochicha Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 (edited) I can understand the desire for you to lash out at someone who has intentionally hurt you but to actively want to hurt the feelings of another person just because is some F'd up stuff. So were you the kid that made their sister cry (and liked it) because you were mad that your parents took your ball away after you misbehaved.... cause that's the picture I am getting Don't be so harsh. I think life will teach him. a thing or two about the entitlement attitude. Btw, it's been a while, Allumere. I never thanked you for helping a guy out back then. I was in a tough spot and I don't think I ever thanked you for your ear. Edited November 19, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
eye of the storm Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 Darren, I was on your side till this post. I know many VERY socially awkward people. People that come up with rules for practically everything. It helps them feel more confident and secure. And I support them and encourage them to live full lives which occasionally means they have to loosen their grip on the rule book and just see what happens. None of them are mean spirited to this level. You are actively trying to hurt people that like you. What you are doing is the emotional equivalent to luring a puppy close with a piece of bacon so you can kick it for being to close. It is mean and cruel. And the worst part is, you know that and are doing it on purpose, 5
Konochicha Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 I am one of those socially awkward people. It's not an easy road, but sabotaging it won't make it any easier. 1
Lernaean_Hydra Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 Darren, honestly, at this point I've very concerned about your mental health. 7
Got it Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 Darren, honestly, at this point I've very concerned about your mental health. I agree. One, I feel this is a little egotistical to think that he can this amazingly negative impact on the female race. Mkay. And two, the one who ultimately loses is the OP. People will move on and find someone better and Darren will be forgot as just a jerky guy. But he will have to live with himself and his sad life of spreading negativity. So, whatever, we all choose how we live our lives, or not, so someone wants to waste it is on them. I hope that Darren gets mental help and maturity and comes to the light side of life and love.
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