Making repeated attempts at asking a woman out

[guest569]

If they decline, but have interest.. They lose. That person should approach you and say "well, I wouldn't mind going for a coffee if the offer still stands"

 

Why would you want to repeatedly ask? i will never get rejected repeatedly by the same person.

[newmoon]

Sometimes people write on here about having "orbiters". I'm guessing that sometimes those people manage to score a date with their body of attraction and that sometimes it'll turn into a relationship.

 

I wouldn't particularly recommend it as a tactic to get a date, though.

 

lol, orbiters? i love that.

[preraph]

You can't forget there are different circumstances. For example, if you ask a woman out 5 times because she's very truly busy and she finally goes out, that's not because you're persistent and she "gave up." It's because once she wasn't busy with something or someone else, she went out with you. So if a woman is seeing someone or just too busy to get something started, that's way different, but a lot of those women aren't going to need you to be persistent. My guess is if they're that busy and social, they can handle getting in touch with you themselves once they're free. My very social girlfriend was that way. She saw a lot of action because she was so outgoing, had lots of guys after her. She was usually too busy right at the moment. She'd get mad if they did anything out of line, though, like just show up at our apartment.

 

I haven't known women who liked "playing hard to get," so can't comment on that. My feeling is if one person wants to go out that bad and the other person doesn't, even if she decides to give in or settle OR take advantage of the situation financially or some other way, the imbalance in the relationship is likely not going to be a great one for the one who cared more.

 

But my main concern is the mentality associated with people who can't let go. It's unhealthy and especially detrimental at breakup time. Can be dangerous.