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Hi. Last night I went on a little date with a woman I met online. She messaged me first on a site called "Meet Me" and we got to talking. She was talking about how guys treated her like a sex object, and that she wanted to get to know a guy and see if it leads to more. So I got to talking to her, and she seemed very sensible(online that is) a week later(last night) we end up going on a date.

 

When we met, it didn't go as planned. For the most part, we were very different. I was intellectual, and she was...super Southern country. Anyway...despite the awkward start...

 

The date ended up back at her place, where we hooked up. This is where the story gets REALLY bad.

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At the time, it was late and freezing. She asked me to spend the night, so I did.

 

After the deed was done, I heard her talking about 'Just not the right guy' under her breath. I asked her again what she said, she said "Nothing"

 

So we got comfy and I wanted to have a conversation. I figured if I was going to be stuck in a house for the night...might as well enjoy myself.

 

The woman spent the rest of the time on her phone, texting guys. She was in front of me, and instead of talking to me, she was telling me about the guys from Meetme, POF, and Kik.

 

I got a first hand taste on what that woman does when deciding on who she wants to see. She was looking at a guy's looks...saying "Cute...not...cute...not...oh he's got a REAL BIG TRUCK...oooh he flashing lotta money...sexy. Oh he like the Crimson Tide? All right. Maybe I should drop the guy a message." I told her that it's rude to constantly be on the phone when you have company. She told me "No this is more fun"

 

After sex, I tried touching her, she pulled away immediately. So much for being affectionate. On text the chick was complaining that a man isn't affectionate enough and they all treat her like a sex object.

 

But right in front of me she was saying, swiping left and right...oooh he's cute...he's ugly..." and all the while asking me "Do you think this is fake" and laughing at the guy's trying to sext her.

 

 

 

If I hooked up with her, why is it that I feel so horrible about the date? She seemed so awesome on text. This is the 5th bad date from online dating I've had in 5 months. I'm this close to quitting the whole scene for good.

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On text the chick was complaining that a man isn't affectionate enough and they all treat her like a sex object.

 

And isn't that exactly how you treated her?

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Exactly how the girl I was dating treated me, constantly texting and on her phone, not a shreed of respect. Run when you see these kinds of people.

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And isn't that exactly how you treated her?

 

I made her dinner. Yes we hooked up, but after the deed, I asked her if she wanted to go to the park and talk a nice peaceful walk...

 

Instead she refused and took the time to lay in bed and go on MeetMe and Kik and survey other guys.

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I understand your frustration, but hang in there. And next time, if you sleep with an annoying girl (or rather a girl who doesn't pay you any mind), leave right after.

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I feel pretty used, and I got sex out of the deal O_O

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If only there were some plane of existence outside of this damned virtual world in which we're all trapped. Some kind of corporeal dimension where flesh bags could communicate with other flesh bags using the ancient art of focused medial vibration.

 

But how? HOW!??!!

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Like I say, online dating is mostly good for sex. I am not saying you won't find the mother of your future children online but that is why I say "mostly."

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If only there were some plane of existence outside of this damned virtual world in which we're all trapped. Some kind of corporeal dimension where flesh bags could communicate with other flesh bags using the ancient art of focused medial vibration.

 

But how? HOW!??!!

 

I've heard of it.

 

I think it's called "real life communication"

 

But that's not possible! According to the media...walking up to a woman is considered a BAD idea. :p

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Hope you wrapped up buddy! I'd get tested anyway. She sounds like a social mongoloid. How disrespectful can someone be. I don't think you treated her like a sex object, she treated herself like that. I read that the sex was consensual and he even tried being affectionate afterward. I think that she was disrespectful in order to drive you away. Some women (people in general) do that because they have an inability to accept responsibility for their own actions. Sounds like a self-sabotager to me. For example, she doesn't want to be treated like a sex object...has sex on the first date. She wants a man to be affectionate...shuns this guy and flaunts other guys in front of him. Her words don't match her actions, therefore she is either a liar or illogical.

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But does the Kardishian approve?

 

She must be consulted before further steps are taken.

 

Beware of the false Oracle, Sway. For he ain't go the answers man. As was foretold by the Prophet West, patriarch of the Media and he who did the education.

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Yea, definitely can't walk up to a woman anymore. Better to chop down an apple tree...

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But does the Kardishian approve?

 

She must be consulted before further steps are taken.

 

Beware of the false Oracle, Sway. For he ain't go the answers man. As was foretold by the Prophet West, patriarch of the Media and he who did the education.

 

But soft, the incredibly unpredictable Bynes loses her quirkiness to a mental illness, and the Paparazzus Meddlus can not get enough of her.

 

Approach her with caution...as foretold by the Bible, the E! Network!

 

But who is this Nickius Minajus? And why are anacondas fascinated with her buns? The world may never know.

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I mean, she complained that people just want her for sex, then you go and have sex with her asap lmfao.

 

This is more cut and dry than an overcooked turkey served out of desperation for thanksgiving.

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I mean, she complained that people just want her for sex, then you go and have sex with her asap lmfao.

 

This is more cut and dry than an overcooked turkey served out of desperation for thanksgiving.

 

She initated.

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If it walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck...

 

It probably gives it up too easy.

 

Oh, I forgot to mention a little tidbit.

 

She hid a text from me from a guy while she was texting other guys...what I saw kinda made me sick.

 

It was pics of her screwing another man...it was plastered all over the text.

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Please tell me you had enough self-respect to actually get up and leave after that, and you DIDN'T stay over.

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I guess I don't really understand why this is such a big deal.

 

I mean you met her...You had sex, (admittedly it sounds like you got used), but regardless of that, you only had to have one date with this woman so nothing lost really, other than a few hours time that could have been spent doing something more productive.

 

Better to find out what her motives are on the first date and move on with your life and search for love, then to be dragged along in a months/years long relationship that was leading no where to begin with.

 

If you didn't wrap up though, I would be sure to get tested.

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She clearly lost all interest in you after sex and was hoping you would leave....so I'm curious why you stayed?

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She clearly lost all interest in you after sex and was hoping you would leave....so I'm curious why you stayed?

 

I guess it was because he didn't want to be lumped in with all the other guys who "treated her like a sex object".

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Yup it sounds like a bad date but did you learn anything from it?

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Hi. Last night I went on a little date with a woman I met online. She messaged me first on a site called "Meet Me" and we got to talking. She was talking about how guys treated her like a sex object, and that she wanted to get to know a guy and see if it leads to more. So I got to talking to her, and she seemed very sensible(online that is) a week later(last night) we end up going on a date.

 

 

Well, she sounds awful.

 

Can I just ask, though, what about her seemed so awesome over text? I assume you never spoke on the phone before meeting, since people don't really these days. But what did you learn about her in texts that earned "awesome"? Since she turned out to be the polar opposite of that (and of everything a person would like in another person, really) I'm genuinely curious about how she hid her true self so well.

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If it walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck...

 

It probably gives it up too easy.

 

Oh, I forgot to mention a little tidbit.

 

She hid a text from me from a guy while she was texting other guys...what I saw kinda made me sick.

 

It was pics of her screwing another man...it was plastered all over the text.

 

What have you learnt from this?

 

If its cold, late and she is stupid... Go home instead...

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When we met, it didn't go as planned. For the most part, we were very different. I was intellectual, and she was...super Southern country. Anyway...despite the awkward start...

 

Unless you were just looking to hook-up, next time use that intellect of yours to figure out that if the date was awkward because of your differences that you should call it quits after a couple of drinks and go home by yourself.

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Yup it sounds like a bad date but did you learn anything from it?

 

Yeah...a few things I'm telling myself.

 

1. Don't go on dates with super obese women...ever again. A few lbs is okay, but 350 lbs is not exactly my thing. I was trying to look past it though. Get some standards. If a woman's gonna have standards, you should too. Don't be desperate because you're in a bad place in life right now.

2. Don't say yes to every date that pops up. Not always a good idea.

3. Don't date country women. ESPECIALLY trailer park trash. They seem to be the ones you don't get along with. Stick to who you're good with.

4. There's nothing wrong with one-night stands. Don't always try to be the good guy. If a chick doesn't earn respect, don't give it to her.

5. If you feel like you were used for sex, you probably were. And that's not necessarily a bad thing, but get yourself tested. This one looks loose.

6. I had a sense the date was going to go bad the MINUTE I heard her talking about standards. Should have ran.

7. If it seems too easy, that's probably a bad sign.

8.Listen to your guts

9. Listen to your guts.

10. LISTEN TO YOUR GUTS!

 

And that, teach, is what I've learned from this experience.

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