Chemist Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 I have a girl I know. She rejected me, but no reason why. Just that she didn't want a date. I met her once, asked for her number. Asked her for dinner. I got them both. I cooked for her. She then took me out for a drink. Told her she was beautiful and wanted a date. She said she didn't want that. Not to sound like a dick, but I have tons of girls that are my friends and get honest opinions. Many of them say I am a winning man. I have a charming personality. I have a full head of hair (for a another thread). I have very handsome facial features. A groomed beard. A great sense of humor. I have my PhD, am educated, and make decent money now with career potential. So many girls tell this. Girls I have made moves on or just friends. I am not short, but I am less than 6' and weigh about 260 lbs. If I had to guess it is because I am fat. I make girls feel happy and comfortable, not horny (at least the ones I want) I once lost 40 lbs over grad school and gained it back. I am currently running a beastly amount and cut all wheat from my diet. I am running 1 hour every other day (up to about a little over 4.5 miles) and am losing weight. Do you think it is okay for me to ask this girl out again when I make my goal of losing 60 lbs? I know this will take time, and I will try to see other girls in that time. This girl is still my friend and we talk. I still want her. Let's say in 4-6 months, would it be weird to ask her again?
Strength in Healing Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 I see no reason why you shouldn't. Go for it brother, good luck. Though a question... Why did you cut out wheat? Whole-grain wheat is one of the healthiest things you can consume, last I checked. If I am wrong though I would like to be corrected.
preraph Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 Well, the better approach might be to just be sure you run into her once you're ready so she doesn't think you've done it all for her, which is too much. I mean, if necessary, have a cocktail party and invite her and 12 other people or whatever. Or just run into her. If I were you, I'd also shave the beard. A lot of women hate beards. Good luck with your weight loss and if you don't get that girl, there will be others.
Author Chemist Posted November 19, 2014 Author Posted November 19, 2014 I am a chemist obviously, but my field is biologically related. The thing about grains is they contain a lot of carbohydrates. When these enter your system, (store bought US bread for instance is packed full of sugar, but lets assume we are eating healthy bread), your body can't process the amount of sugar released. Instead, it is converted to triacyl glycerides in your liver and contribute also to Insulin resistance. During a time when I had triglycerides in the states, I cut out breads and it dropped like no other. That was also when I lost weight the first time. Steady increase in your carbs over time isn't bad because it doesn't turn on the triglyceride factory like when you get a huge dose of sugar. So furits and veggies are better than juice and easily process foods due to glycermic index. I read this book called wheat belly Dr. William Davis | Cardiologist & Author of Wheat Belly Books and it made me want to try it.
Author Chemist Posted November 19, 2014 Author Posted November 19, 2014 Well, the better approach might be to just be sure you run into her once you're ready so she doesn't think you've done it all for her, which is too much. I mean, if necessary, have a cocktail party and invite her and 12 other people or whatever. Or just run into her. If I were you, I'd also shave the beard. A lot of women hate beards. Good luck with your weight loss and if you don't get that girl, there will be others. I am not doing it for her. I am doing it for me. I know I have a health issue. I also think that most girls I want reject me for my weight. It isn't for her persay, as I just want a girl I feel amazing to have... but there is something about this one that I want and want still. So she would be at the top of the list for a girl to go back after. I can see how that may not be easy explain if I am constantly showing her how I am losing weight. I think you're right, I mean she is busy, we see each other about once a month now since school started again. During her breaks we will hang out 2-3 times.
FitChick Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 Don't make a big deal of your weight loss. If she comments, say Thanks and that you want to make your health a priority. You have it a lot easier than most men because all you have to do is lose weight.
Assasda Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 I dont think she turned you down because of your weight. I also see that, you think looks and hair matters - they dont. Education barely matters. Anyway, since you spotted the weight as a problem. It probably is an insecurity problem of yours, and when you work on it, your mentality may change. You may not want to ask that girl out anymore. - So, work on your insecurities, (which you are doing) and cross bridges when they come
BluEyeL Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 Honestly, I really think weight does matter. I think overweight people are the most disadvantaged on the dating market. Men less so than women, but still. Good luck losing the weight! Sure, you can "run into her" afterwards and ask her again. But don't put high hopes into it. Losing weight might not change things for this particular girl, but will have enormous benefits for your health and for your love life.
OwMyEyeball Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 Once you've shed the weight I doubt you'll really care all that much about dating her anyhow.
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