laluna Posted March 17, 2005 Posted March 17, 2005 We broke up two months ago, we were only together for two months. I feel head over heels, he told me that he couldn't support me the way that I needed to be supported emotionaly and that he didn't feel that way about me. I was angry. As it turns out, he was moved to a new department at work and I see him about once a week. I was pleasant once, sought him out and talked to him for about half an hour. He hasn't contacted me at all, I don't think that he cares enough too. I feel good about where I am, but seeing him just sends me into a tailspin and I feel like I did two months ago when we first broke up. I try to avoid him and when I see him I just say hello and keep walking, he does the same. He has never had to deal with seeing an ex like this on a regular basis and neither have I. I just need some advice, because I don't want to get sent back down the same road over and over again.
haywood Posted March 17, 2005 Posted March 17, 2005 i work with the girl i used to go out with too. different dept different floors. but we've bumped into each other before. haven't yet since the break. sad times. give it some time. carry yourself like nothing bothers you. good luck
latefragment Posted March 18, 2005 Posted March 18, 2005 this happened to me too. he had a crush on me for 8 months before we finally started dating. dated for about 2 months. he initiated the "taking a break" after a particularly nasty fight that was completely my fault. we had a discussion last night where he said he's pretty much done with the relationship and wants to be friends. i am so depressed right now, sad, and crushed. i thought there was a lot of potential... in addition to that, i have to deal with seeing him at work. that freaks the hell out of me. i haven't been able to eat or sleep, i feel like i'm going to die or something. sorry to bother you all. thanks for listening.
DeaconFrost Posted March 19, 2005 Posted March 19, 2005 All I can say is that this situation sucks...every serious (if that's what you want to call it) relationship that I have has been with someone I work with. What a mess! From my experience the best thing to do in this scenario is to simply be friendly and go about your day. You are at work to work. Remember that. Focus on your job! That way if you do run into the person you can make it short and sweet. Why? Because you got s**t to do! And this time you can really mean it if you get stopped or have a strange encounter. You should also try to just meet other people or talk to your existing friends at work...and most importantly...don't talk about the ex! No one wants to be a part of office politics and relationships. Plus, they will talk to you about other things that will get your mind off of the old relationship. Between focusing on work and chatting with your fellow workers, there should be little time to think about the ex or even chance running into them. Use your friends as a resource too! It always helps to know when someone is around the corner Good luck!
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