Ecko08 Posted November 18, 2014 Posted November 18, 2014 I was here a couple months ago discussing my now ex-fiancé's (we were together for 6 years) indiscretions. Anyway, since then We were trying to patch things up or so I thought. Saturday night she's going on and on about how she hates her life where she is (we're in separate states right now) and all this blah blah bullsh-t. "I love you, I'm sorry for everything, I want my old life back" she says. I respond "I've been trying to rebuild it and want that to". She says "I want to get out of here and come back" and I tell her that's what I wanted but I needed to know one thing: "honestly, so you still have your boyfriend? Just tell the truth and it won't be a big deal". She says "I swear to god I do not. I wouldn't lie I have nothing else to live for blah blah bullsh-t". She goes on to say "obviously you're never going to get over this so there's no point I have to go now just know I always loved you". She then blocks me on her phone. So, I spent Sunday trying to get a hold of her by email. 7:30AM Monday morning she simply responds "I love you, Sean". Doesn't unblock my number, mind you, and I start responding via email. Monday afternoon I get a series of emails from her "father" saying she tried to kill herself, almost bled to death, and was in the hospital. Now, on Friday she supposedly got info about her 92 year old grandfather going to the hospital with pneumonia. She as all upset blah blah bullsh-t. I told her that day I would help try and get her to NY to see him. Well, anyway, that was all probably bullsh-t too. So, the emails on Monday afternoon say she was really upset when she found out about her grandfather but I was the one that pushed her to try and kill herself. Remember, I thought all of this was true at the time. So, I tell her "father" that I was trying to help her, as I always have but if that really was the case I would leave her alone. "He" responds "do you really think that is going to help? I don't" then the emails stopped coming altogether. So, I had tried to continue emailing and figure out what was going on. Last night I had checked 18 different hospitals and she want at a single one of them. I was torn to pieces and felt GUILTY. Barely slept. So, today I go look at last months phone bill and find her sisters number (she had demanded I delete it and not talk to her sister, for obvious reasons of her not wanting to get caught lying). So, call her sister and ask where she was sister says "at home I guess". I ask what about the past few days? And she responds "at home. I saw her yesterday". A little after that I finally get an email saying she was in a behavioral hospital and she couldn't use the phone. Well, I don't do this stuff but I reactivated my old Facebook, checked her page AND SHE WAS ON IT AT THE SAME TIME COMMENTING ON PICTURES WITH THE GUY SHE SAID SHE STOPPED SEEING. They were talking about wanting to get beers (she pleaded with me for years to stop drinking and I finally did a long time ago). Holy crap what kind of sick deranged person does that type of sh-t??? I came to realization that she is not only a pathological liar but also a friggin SOCIOPATH. It's makes me sick to my stomach. Well, needless to say, she won and finally got me out of her life.
Standard-Fare Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 Yep. Unforgettable and unforgivable. If she tries to contact you and cover up her trail of lies (which she will), just keep repeating: "You need help. I hope you find it."
andilyn1 Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 I'll never understand why people lie like that so much. I broke up with my ex bf over the weekend due to some serious lies. He had lied to me prior to this, but we had a long talk about it, and we worked through it. Or at least tried. But I just always felt uneasy that he wasn't telling me the complete truth at times. And sure enough, he wasn't. Once they start lying so much, it truly is a hard thing to break just by wanting to. I believe it requires some sort of therapy or counseling to get to the root of it. Anyway, I'm sorry your ex resorted to lies. It hurts, I definitely can relate. The thing I try and remind myself is no matter how many times he tries to contact me (which he has several times) and tells me he loves me, I cannot go back to that. No one deserves to be lied to repeatedly, or to always have to question if the person is being honest with everything. Hang in there. It will get better. You're not alone! 1
stillafool Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 No you won because she is out of your life. Please forget about her now and leave her alone.
bathtub-row Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 ^^^ This. You definitely won. Please don't let her get within a hundred yards of you ever again, and please don't ever speak to her again. There are good people out there. Spend your time and energy on them. I'm with you, though, I have no idea why on earth anyone would lie to this extent. It's completely unreal. I'm really sorry this happened to you. You're obviously a very good man. Find a woman who deserves your goodness.
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