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Funny, how this guy told me his weekends are "busy," yet he makes time for friends.

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I just realized how I wasn't much interest to this guy, when he would tell me his weekends are just too "busy." I know people get busy or what not. But when he makes time for his friends or some meet-up group that he's involved with and he goes to all these live music shows with his friends, yet I guess I wasn't much importance for him to ask me if I was ever interested in going with him...should I be bothered by this?

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I'm a bit confused. Have you asked him to hang out, and he turns you down with the "busy" explanation? Or are you simply hoping he'll invite you along?

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No. Frankly, just take it that he has different priorities. Perhaps he's the kind of guy who likes to compartmentalise aspects of his life.

Oh well....

We can't 'click' with everyone. Let it go, move on.

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He doesn't have time for YOU on weekends because he's already busy doing these other things. You might rank a romance higher than friends or a meetup group or a hobby but he does not.

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His weekends ARE busy. He scheduled hang-outs with his friends and what not. That's still considered being unavailable for the day/night/etc-- Thus "busy."

 

Have you been dating this man? Just "hanging-out?" What days, usually? How often?

 

This information would contribute to understanding more about your particular situation.

 

For some reason, people keep saying that "weekend dates" make you a priority. Someone even posted an article about it a few days ago. I think that's a load of crap. You can have fun with someone regardless of the day of the week. All I am saying is, don't use his unavailability (due to friends) on the weekends as judging his interest in you.

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He doesn't have time for YOU on weekends because he's already busy doing these other things. You might rank a romance higher than friends or a meetup group or a hobby but he does not.

 

Yup. He's already busy doing stuff with his friends.

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Well, he goes out to the clubs on the weekends. Yet, he doesn't even introduce me to his friends. He always goes out with this blonde chick-they are ravers, like buddies, but why not me?

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He doesn't have time for YOU on weekends because he's already busy doing these other things. You might rank a romance higher than friends or a meetup group or a hobby but he does not.

 

I've seem a few of his gal-pals and they are cute, so who's to say that he prefers to hang with them and not me? Should I be a priority and join them? Am I not cool enough for their little group?

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OP, I'm confused.

 

How long have you been dating this guy considering you are "just out of a FWB" as of yesterday?

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His weekends ARE busy. He scheduled hang-outs with his friends and what not. That's still considered being unavailable for the day/night/etc-- Thus "busy."

 

Have you been dating this man? Just "hanging-out?" What days, usually? How often?

 

This information would contribute to understanding more about your particular situation.

 

For some reason, people keep saying that "weekend dates" make you a priority. Someone even posted an article about it a few days ago. I think that's a load of crap. You can have fun with someone regardless of the day of the week. All I am saying is, don't use his unavailability (due to friends) on the weekends as judging his interest in you.

 

I also think the weekend date thing is a load of crap. I'm unavailable 3 out of 4 Saturdays due to outdoor activities I partake in. My partner has never liked it too much, but it is what it is and it's not changing.

 

 

Nobody is that busy.

 

This may be the case for the OP, but people can definitely be that busy. Relationships are not everyone's top priority.

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I just think it's just rude of him. Sure, he prefers to hang out with some hot Iranian chick he his little ****ing edm music group, but excluded from those events???? Also, they are allowed to bring a guest, why doesn't he bring me?

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I just think it's just rude of him. Sure, he prefers to hang out with some hot Iranian chick he his little ****ing edm music group, but excluded from those events???? Also, they are allowed to bring a guest, why doesn't he bring me?

 

Who is this guy to you? Boyfriend, FWB, just a friend?

 

Can't you just ask him why he doesn't invite you?

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I know relationships aren't his top priority, but what gets under my skin is that his group of friends that he made from meet up.com and some of these girls that he hangs with are cute, so who's to say that he's not "liking" then or flirting with them? I also like techno music, so why can't join in? Should I invite myself?

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Funny, how this guy told me his weekends are "busy," yet he makes time for friends.

 

Ding Dong.....he isn't that into you, stop wasting your time.

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Ding Dong.....he isn't that into you, stop wasting your time.

 

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

 

If a guys really into you, he'd make the effort to hang out with you. You just aren't very important to him right now.

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I know relationships aren't his top priority, but what gets under my skin is that his group of friends that he made from meet up.com and some of these girls that he hangs with are cute, so who's to say that he's not "liking" then or flirting with them? I also like techno music, so why can't join in? Should I invite myself?

 

OP, you still haven't clarified who this guy is to you. Is he your friend? Boyfriend? Please respond to we can better understand your situation.

 

It seems he's just not that into you. He could indeed be liking or flirting with them. If he wanted you to come, he'd have asked you.

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@OP....have you answered the question posed as to how long you two have been seeing each other?

 

Sounds to me that he is indeed "busy". You can't expect him to drop his previous life and make it now revolve around you. Neither should you do this for anyone...find a hobby to keep you from going bonkers

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^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

 

If a guys really into you, he'd make the effort to hang out with you. You just aren't very important to him right now.

 

This. Nobody is that busy.

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