jrtfrisco Posted November 18, 2014 Posted November 18, 2014 (edited) During date three, had a good time, but she told me before it ended that she didn't think she was ready to be in a relationship with anyone right now due to an unresolved personal issue (I think anxiety disorder, but I'm not sure). This was good to hear (her not being ready, not her issue, as I wasn't sure if I wanted to do any more dates), but she texted me after the date "thanks for dinner, good night!" and I texted her back good night as well. Since, I haven't been sure if that end of the night text was to be polite (as I treated her to dinner) or to let me know that she's still interested. It's been a few days now and I haven't contacted her (and visa versa). Is it okay to let things be, or should I contact her and tell her "this isn't for me"? I ask because if she still is interested, then my silence just doesn't feel right to me, especially as she's nice and we established some sort of relationship (even if casual) over the last few weeks (which included texts here and there, and a few short phone convos). I also ask because if she does have an unresolved personal issue, then I wouldn't want to aggravate that by handling this in an insensitive way. However, I also don't want to create a situation where one doesn't exist (i.e., "breaking up," when you're not even together or exceed a few dates). I should also note that we didn't sleep together (just kissed a little). I'd appreciate any thoughts...thanks. Edited November 18, 2014 by jrtfrisco
Ronni_W Posted November 18, 2014 Posted November 18, 2014 Yes, it's not only okay, it's also necessary, to let things be. You can take her last text as her being polite and also putting the last full-stop/period on the entire "relationship" (such as it was). She already told you that she's not interested in anything further, so your silence is actually expected by her. She already told you that this isn't for her, so there's really no need for you to want to tell her the same thing, as if it is your idea. So, yes, it's perfectly okay to just let things be. 1
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