skyblue707 Posted November 18, 2014 Posted November 18, 2014 For me it's been only 2 weeks. But it's not the first time it's happened. Last year, we went nc for 3 weeks, I broke nc, texted him and we were talking like nothing ever happened. Just curious to see if anyone has been contacted.
d0nnivain Posted November 18, 2014 Posted November 18, 2014 NC doesn't have a beginning or end. It's not a defined period of time. It just is. One person implements it to save themselves. They don't necessarily communicate it to the other person. The fact that you are apart now & have been apart before tells me you are on a vicious cycle & the relationship is unstable because you break up rather than address your issues. 1
lemonsugar Posted November 18, 2014 Posted November 18, 2014 For me it's been only 2 weeks. But it's not the first time it's happened. Last year, we went nc for 3 weeks, I broke nc, texted him and we were talking like nothing ever happened. Just curious to see if anyone has been contacted. day 19 nothing dod have 2 missed calls which could have been him do i care not really i wouldnt answer anyway
RedButton Posted November 18, 2014 Posted November 18, 2014 I'm also interested in knowing this. I'm 18 days in and haven't made contact. It's strange, even though I know it wouldn't be good, I'm very much hoping for her to message me. I find myself checking my phone hoping she's tried to get in touch. We had a fairly mutual and very civilised breakup, so I don't want to 'never see/hear them again' but I also know I need at least a couple of months to come to terms and clear my head. I worry I would cave very quickly if she contacted me first though, I know we both need more time to know what's best.
Jenmarie Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 I've been with my boyfriend for a few years, and we had two "NC" situations. Our first (and only actual) break up was very needed. I was the dumpee and went NC for over 2 months, and I broke NC because I felt confident and ready. I spoke of other things, not the break up, then he asked to contact me more and eventually we reconciled. He never broke NC. Then a year+ after that, we got into a bad fight and he broke up with me. There were problems he had with a few things, and instead of communicating about it and put us on the line. He said he wanted us to be friends, but I respectfully declined and went straight to NC and removed him off everything. After the 2nd day, he started favoriting old tweets of mine that were about him but I ignored it. Then he eventually texted me and broke NC with a "Hey." I didn't respond right away thinking it was just a breadcrumb, but I said hello back. He responded with the famous old breadcrumb "wanted to see how you're doing" and I just said "very good, thanks." Then he asked why I removed him off everything and I just said "I'm respecting your decision," then he gave me the big old "I miss you." It was only 3 days. We eventually talked and he agreed that putting our relationship on the line is wrong, and we should communicate about what we have problems with. So we've been doing that a lot. So to be honest, it can be anytime. Could be never. I don't know if my boyfriend would of contacted me ever after the first time since I contacted him first. Usually they eventually contact you, but sometimes it's too late.
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