I don't know what this guy is thinking. Does he just want to be friends with me?

[sarah3993]

I just turned 23 and he is 21.

He seems very shy person and a bit quite.

I've never liked younger guys...

 

I've known him since last September because we are in the same courses but barely talked.

We got a bit closer after we happened to sit next to each other at a connect conference even for school and I made a paper crane and gave it to him. After presentation was over, he asked me if I want to tour around the events together. We talked a lot as we were walking for hours. I asked his number.

 

He texted me that night with a picture of the paper crane "you still need to show me how to make those" and chatted for a bit.

 

Another day, he texted me with a pic of a paper crane he tried to make "I know it looks bad. At least I tried!!" It was just too cute...

 

the other day, he asked me if I wanted to join him and his female roommate/my friend to go to a pub. She had to leave the pub earlier so I decided to go to friend's place in downtown. He came with me. But when we got there, everyone had already left. On the way to his bus stop, he said he wants to go see a parliament building with light up since he's never seen it. It was in downtown anyways. We chatted in front of it for like an hour and left. It was 1am. I walked him to the bus stop... he didn't walk me home..I live downtown. So it's obviously that he has not interests in me...

 

I like him. But I feel really old and I'm shy.

 

And the other day, I went to a museum with a group of people including him. There were short movies of history playing at a little theater of the museum and there were only three of us(him, his roommate and me). When we were walking to the seats, he was walking at the head and the roommate and me in the last. As we got closer to the seats we picked, he slowly let the roommate go first. The roommate said "you don't want to sit in the middle right?" he said "doesn't matter." I thought he wanted to sit next to me... sorry I think I am getting a little big for my britches.

 

After the movie finished, other people (6 of us) arrived and we started walking through the museum. I got a bit sad that he didn't talk to me at all while walking through the museum. I felt distance from him. We were all at the same floor but not walking together. I had a chance to be just me and him walking alone but he quickly leaves me and walked to another member... happened a couple times.

 

There was an another short movie I really wanted to watch but none of the members wanted. I asked him and he said he is interested in and asked what time it is starting. I said "we have to go now if you are interested in" but he said he wanted to finish the exhibits. He didn't come with me so I ended up watching it by myself... I was so scared and intimidated when I asked him... I was thinking if we watch the movie together, we could come back to the exhibits just two of us. But didn't work out...

 

But, a couple days ago, he asked me if I want to go for a sushi night with him on the weekend.

 

So yesterday, we went for dinner together. It was fun. When the server came and asked if we want one bill or a separate bill, and he asked for separate. I know I shouldn’t automatically assume that guys pay for dinner.

I guess I was the only one thought it was a date.. :’(

Anyways, after dinner we took our time to chat and walk around downtown back and force for like an hour. As we were talking about what we should do, he asked if I wanted to watch a movie. I said, “no, I rather walk and talk to you.” So he took me to a place where people build houses on the sea. When we were walking, he gave me a paper crane he made. It wasn’t perfect looking but just too cute.

 

He said yes when I asked him if he wants Ice Cream take-out and eat at my place. We just talked and made cranes at home.. haha. We also decided go walking trails to a summit where we can see 360 degree views of the city and mountains the next day (so it was today) He left at around 12 as he was very sleepy.

 

So yes, we went hiking today. The mountain was really small so it took us about 40 min to get to the summit but there was no cloud and the view was just breathtaking. We just sit and chat on the mountain and head back home. On the way back home, I asked him if he has a girlfriend or had one before.

He told me “not now. I had one but not like serious relationship” and asked me the same question. I also said, “you don’t really show your expression.” and he said “nope, I don’t and not good at it.”

 

I really don’t know what he’s thinking since he doesn’t show his expression like at all. Does he think I am one of his good buddies? Just wanted to be friends with me?And I also don’t think it is a good idea to tell him I like him because if he doesn’t like me back, our friendship is screwed. I don’t know what to do with this guy:'(

I like him, I want to hold his hands... but I am very shy and scared if I make a move and he runs away... but I don't think he would either.

[d0nnivain]

At this point he's certainly not initiating a romantic relationship. I'd assume he wasn't interested & back off. It's up to you whether you want to be just his friend. Another option is more forthright & you ask him on a date, clearly specified as such, to see what happens. If he is not interested this may make his future interactions with you -- assuming you want to be just his friend in the wake of rejections -- awkward at best.