three months yesterday

[Lalocket]

Hi all,

 

I thought i would update you to let you know how I'm getting on. it's been three months since my horrendous break up where i felt like my world was ending. i saw no point in anything and it's fair to say that I was the lowest i've ever been in my whole life.

 

So how am i feeling today? I'm fine. I am genuinely feeling fine. Things still hurt sometimes, when i think of how he left and how quickly he moved on (10 days post break up he started dating this girl, they are now together). On a day to day basis, i still think of him a lot (i won't lie about that) but i do know that it is gradually fading. each day I'm thinking of him less and less and perhaps the fact he DID move on so quickly only helped my recovery in the long run. I will never know that but in a way i'm glad he did.

 

The worst part was realising and acceptingthat what we had wasn't 'amazing' and then being able to open my eyes to all the faults in our relationship and the sacrifices we were both making to be together. I wanted to believe he would 'come to his senses' or 'realise' what we had was special. He didn't. he never contacted me or attempted to. I deleted his number but never blocked it so he could have always contacted me. I think this is what we all hold out for, the chance they will come back. Sometimes they do, but he didnt. he never will. i've accepted that and that was the biggest motivation for me to move on.

 

I threw myself into the dating thing pretty quickly (yes, Tinder..don't knock it!), i guess people deal with things differently and this was my way. I was lucky enough to have found a real good guy after only a second date and we've been giving things a go for the past month now. He knows i'm not quite 'ready' for anything too serious and he has been really understanding of my hurt. He is kind, funny and caring. I read this the other day and i believe it applies quite well to my situation, i'm sure you've heard it before

 

"sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together"

 

This website (and the replies) was a huge comfort to me in my darkest times and at my times of sheer desperation and hopelessness. I will pop back to update you on my progress from time to time, perhaps it may help someone.

[lemonsugar]

Hi all,

 

I thought i would update you to let you know how I'm getting on. it's been three months since my horrendous break up where i felt like my world was ending. i saw no point in anything and it's fair to say that I was the lowest i've ever been in my whole life.

 

So how am i feeling today? I'm fine. I am genuinely feeling fine. Things still hurt sometimes, when i think of how he left and how quickly he moved on (10 days post break up he started dating this girl, they are now together). On a day to day basis, i still think of him a lot (i won't lie about that) but i do know that it is gradually fading. each day I'm thinking of him less and less and perhaps the fact he DID move on so quickly only helped my recovery in the long run. I will never know that but in a way i'm glad he did.

 

The worst part was realising and acceptingthat what we had wasn't 'amazing' and then being able to open my eyes to all the faults in our relationship and the sacrifices we were both making to be together. I wanted to believe he would 'come to his senses' or 'realise' what we had was special. He didn't. he never contacted me or attempted to. I deleted his number but never blocked it so he could have always contacted me. I think this is what we all hold out for, the chance they will come back. Sometimes they do, but he didnt. he never will. i've accepted that and that was the biggest motivation for me to move on.

 

I threw myself into the dating thing pretty quickly (yes, Tinder..don't knock it!), i guess people deal with things differently and this was my way. I was lucky enough to have found a real good guy after only a second date and we've been giving things a go for the past month now. He knows i'm not quite 'ready' for anything too serious and he has been really understanding of my hurt. He is kind, funny and caring. I read this the other day and i believe it applies quite well to my situation, i'm sure you've heard it before

 

"sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together"

 

This website (and the replies) was a huge comfort to me in my darkest times and at my times of sheer desperation and hopelessness. I will pop back to update you on my progress from time to time, perhaps it may help someone.

 

A bril post and positive just what we all need

[welyam]

"sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together"

 

 

 

God

will never leave you

empty. He will replace everything you lost. If He

asks you to put

something down, it's because He wants you to

pick up something better

and best for you.

 

 

 

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