Nuffsaid Posted November 18, 2014 Posted November 18, 2014 Been out of the dating scene for 10 years!! I was with my high school sweetheart for 7 years we broke up about 2 years ago and i just haven't been trying at all. I don't even know where to begin. I gave myself an excusing said i got to get fit again and go finish my degree, now that I've done both I'm still not even trying... I find myself still thinking about my ex from time to time even check up on her Facebook or Instagram ...even twitter lol i don't want to get back with her but why do i still do this... She's already moved on and got a new boyfriend, she's good looking so i knew that its gonna happen.. I drop 30lb and got back to my high school weight. I actively go out bars, clubs, and events with friends and i do meet new people i just never went and actively tried to get with anyone. I do find many attractive but i never act upon it. Friends always ask me why I'm still single and its starting to be annoying. Idk what to do here maybe i just haven't found the right one yet? Should I just keep doing what I'm doing being passive about my love life?
d0nnivain Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 Dating as an adult is vastly different then dating in school especially high school. In school you sort of have a captive audience & plenty of opportunities to interact with the other person without hitting on them. In real life, the date is the get to know you activity. In school you can sort of watch the other person across the class room or cafeteria. It's easier to break the ice if you already have something in common. Get involved in activities that you enjoy: volunteering, industry based groups, church, meet-ups etc. Build a rapport with interesting women you meet there. You can even try taking or teaching an adult education class: cooking, finance, auto repair, etc. Try OLD but not as your only method of meeting people. Tell friends & family you are open to being introduced to knew people.
Assasda Posted November 19, 2014 Posted November 19, 2014 Yeah, you should keep doing what youre doing. Dont let anyone pressure you into something, that youre not really looking for yet. You have stuff to do, and you want to be by yourself. Its not bad 1
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