Sksmith Posted November 18, 2014 Posted November 18, 2014 My ex and I have been on and off for 2.5 years. He's come back to me 3 times. 2 of the three were long apologizes and cute messages. The third time was just asking how I was doing because it's been a while. The first time he came back after 2 weeks, second time was 2 months and third time was 5 months. He just ended it again 3 weeks ago. Today he texted me saying hey how are you? I handled the break up very well and never contacted him again. He said he figured he'd see how things were. Then he just asked me how work was and we had a short conversation about that. Then the conversation stopped. It definitely confused me. Is he trying to get back with me slowly or does he really just want to know how I am? Last time when he asked how I was doing he continued the conversation until he went to sleep. But he also just got dumped so he needed attention from me. This time he just continued the conversation until I just said yup yup. And he never a Answered. I don't get when his motives could be here and it's stressing me out. Advice please!!
SoThatHappened Posted November 18, 2014 Posted November 18, 2014 But he also just got dumped so he needed attention from me. Key phrase right there. Sorry, but you're Plan B to him. You're the girl on the back-burner if it doesn't work out with other girls. You're the safe girl who takes him back when he "needs" physical attention. You're his doormat. He only cares what needs you can fulfill for him physically. That's it. Have more respect for yourself and act like this D-Bag died. Seriously. He has no respect for you. I'm a guy and know this. Find someone who doesn't treat you like a toy he plays with whenever he wants and then tosses it to the side when he finds a new one. Run far away from this guy. You already know why he's done what he's done. You're the only one allowing that. Stop it.
Author Sksmith Posted November 18, 2014 Author Posted November 18, 2014 I am not going back to him. Trust me, I have finally realized what he does to me. But what confuses me is the fact that this time was different. Why did he just want to know how I was doing?
Author Sksmith Posted November 18, 2014 Author Posted November 18, 2014 And I guess I'm wondering if he will do it again?
h20-50 Posted November 18, 2014 Posted November 18, 2014 I am not going back to him. Trust me, I have finally realized what he does to me. But what confuses me is the fact that this time was different. Why did he just want to know how I was doing? I've been hardcore NC for 3 months now. My ex texted me 1.5 months into it with a "just thinking about you and hope your doing well". She broke it off, said she lost everything we had (I was a great BF too) and yes it confused the hell out of me when she texted. From my perspective if she really wanted more she should have the courage to come out and say it, she didn't. She's not the type to admit openly to her feelings and honestly I don't think she knows what she really wants. Until she comes out and says she wants me back or apologizes profusely over and over I have no need to respond. It's a lose lose situation in my eyes. Stay strong, if he wanted more from you he would have came out and said it instead of fishing and testing the waters. 1
RockyCruz Posted November 18, 2014 Posted November 18, 2014 And I guess I'm wondering if he will do it again? I guess it doesn't matter, if you're not going to have him back. So why bother thinking about it?
PegNosePete Posted November 18, 2014 Posted November 18, 2014 I guess it doesn't matter, if you're not going to have him back. So why bother thinking about it? Precisely. If you're not going to have him back then who gives a rat's ass what he says or does?
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