nofeelings22 Posted November 18, 2014 Posted November 18, 2014 So as those on here who remember me through my divorce and rather outlandish period of dating will recall, I've had a hard time getting back out there. Lots of weird emotions. I also travel constantly and snowbird between Manhattan and Miami. Something weird has been happening. One by one, several of the girls I have dated and then moved away from as I changee areas for the season or whatever have nearly out of the blue, asked to move in with me!! Im like???? First, one I only dated a few weeks on my way out of Manhattan. She texts me one day and is like... why did you abandon me?? I want to be with you. To go where you go. Live with you. We get along so well. Second, the girl I hired as an assistant in Miami for a bit but had dated on and off for years does the same thing!! After I left Miami, we really didn't talk. I wasn't liking her over partying and ultra wild sex life. Not for a long term girlfriend. We text a little, she calls, we talk and she is like, when you are done building your boat (I travel and work on boats), please take me with you! I just want to be with you and go. Take me. Third, the girl I'm most compatible with wants to do the same! She is coming for a visit here in FL in a couple weeks. First question: WTF is going on???? Why are these girls all asking to mlive with me when we dated in the past and it didn't quite work out? Second question: It gets even more strange... none of them is just jumping right into it. I'm in my RV at my boat build site for the next several months. I have office work for anyone that comes. Will help me get the boat done faster. I said sure to each to see what they were about and each is not just coming down now. All are dragging their feet, with the exception of the one from Miami that clearly said she wants to go away with me when the boat is done. She is literally waiting for me and would leave now if it was done. Why?? Why is this happening? Could anyone offer possible explainations?? What the heck am I doing that could cause this behavior in not one, not two, but every girl I've gotten close with in the past year? I'm lost... All input appreciated.
sagetalk Posted November 18, 2014 Posted November 18, 2014 Why?? Why is this happening? Women love men who travel frequently. They just love traveling in general. If you can take them with you, you are at the top of the list. Have you always traveled with your job or is this a new thing?
preraph Posted November 18, 2014 Posted November 18, 2014 Maybe I'm off the mark, but Miami and NY are both great vacation destinations and my understanding from people who live there is they constantly have to turn people away to keep them from using them as a hotel. Jeez, a friend of mine in San Diego moved to an acre with a pool and everyone she knew except me piled in on her right away. Plus they're expensive places where people need roommates. So don't say yes to anyone moving in and place a time limit on any visits, but meanwhile, have fun.
Author nofeelings22 Posted November 18, 2014 Author Posted November 18, 2014 Women love men who travel frequently. They just love traveling in general. If you can take them with you, you are at the top of the list. Have you always traveled with your job or is this a new thing? I travel with my life, rather than job. I have been doing it for about a decade. My life is travel, my jobs (small businesses) are designed around my life of travel vs the other way around. I am confused. I had thought most women liked houses, picket fences, fancy cars and babies? I have none of these.
Author nofeelings22 Posted November 18, 2014 Author Posted November 18, 2014 Maybe I'm off the mark, but Miami and NY are both great vacation destinations and my understanding from people who live there is they constantly have to turn people away to keep them from using them as a hotel. Jeez, a friend of mine in San Diego moved to an acre with a pool and everyone she knew except me piled in on her right away. Plus they're expensive places where people need roommates. So don't say yes to anyone moving in and place a time limit on any visits, but meanwhile, have fun. Hmmm... good input. It is worth noting that one of them lives in Miami and has lived there for 4 years. The other 2 already live in Manhattan. None the less, they don't have fantastically stable living situations... a common thread. Good points about gound rules. I actually told them no freeloaders. ha ha That i have some office work they can do to offset food and whatever. I'm actually in a very rural, weird part of FL for this winter during the hopefully soon to be ending boat build. So they are looking to come to this weird place where I am now, live in an RV and deal with that while I'm wrapping up the build. To move out of the city. Except Miami girl....she wants to wait until the boat is done and just go....
Standard-Fare Posted November 18, 2014 Posted November 18, 2014 Without knowing anything about you, I'd agree that your lifestyle probably seems fun/exotic to these women, and they start to fantasize about it as an escape from their own realities. But like most fantasies when the reality of logistics hits (i.e. you saying "Come live in my RV while I work on my boat"), they prefer the security of their normal life. 1
sagetalk Posted November 18, 2014 Posted November 18, 2014 I am confused. I had thought most women liked houses, picket fences, fancy cars and babies? I have none of these. In marriage, that is what they want. However, in dating, you have what they want. It's sadly ironic. 1
Omei Posted November 18, 2014 Posted November 18, 2014 Who knows? You're the man? As a woman if I landed a boyfriend who traveled I would totally dig spending 5-6 years or so as traveling love birds before taking a next step. The thought of it is very wondrous and magical!
Copelandsanity Posted November 18, 2014 Posted November 18, 2014 Free rent and all expenses paid. Exactly. Normal people can't just up and go like that.
Author nofeelings22 Posted November 20, 2014 Author Posted November 20, 2014 Free rent and all expenses paid. Not quite. They have to work for me, generating enough profit to cover the expense of having them here. See "no freeloaders" comment above...
Author nofeelings22 Posted November 20, 2014 Author Posted November 20, 2014 Exactly. Normal people can't just up and go like that. This will get a little weird .... I don't date normal people. House? Kids? Career you can't leave? Those are 100% deal breakers for me. People like that are completely incompatible with my life. If they aren't down t travel and live life of freedom, I don't continue. There would be no point in it because I'm not going to sit around in some place all my life,doing nothing, in the same boring town or neighborhood. I only date the adventurous for compatibility reasons.
His Majesty Posted November 20, 2014 Posted November 20, 2014 A few questions: 1. How old are you and how old are the three women looking to move in? 2. Your post suggests that you may be very wealthy. Do your businesses generate huge amounts of money, or do they simply sustain you well enough to not adhere to a "schedule." I'm a little like this. 3. What would they do to "earn their keep" and how would it cover the expense of having them there (again, just curious)? Is sex considered part of what she'd have to do to not be considered a "freeloader?" Sounds like you have it made. Best of luck. I'd let all three of them come to stay!
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