lostgirl9 Posted March 17, 2005 Posted March 17, 2005 well as some of you know my situation titled " I embarrased myself with my ex". I slept with my ex boyfriend after a month break up ( because we were fighting too much and he lost hope) and I cried and embarrassed myself by having sex with him and crying on that drunken night. He didn't really confort me much other than holding me and I felt lame. Since then I know my ex went out on a date where he told me the girl does not have personality and he wasn't too enthused about things. He then asked me to go with him to a cabin he bought near a lake. we had a good time but he wasn't super affactionate. we were there with some friends and had a good time . when we got home we slept in the same bed together without having sex. He cuddled me for a long time then kissed me goodnight and says he loves me and turns the other way. then in the morning he seduces me and we have sex and I'm okay and he says thanks which makes me feel like a prostitute. then while he is going to work he thinks he's lost his wallet and he is angry and screaming and frustrated. While he's away I find it for him and call him and tell him. He asks me what's wrong I say nothing. he calls me again and leaves a message and asks me what's wrong and if I am upset that we fooled around. I told him that I can never fool around like a man does especially with him because there is so much history and such. Well my question is, I keep on thinking if I hang out with him he will in time see that we can be stable together and i can withold the sex which will give him something to think about. Like if he wants a full relationship or not or is no contact my best bet. This man is really an awesome guy though sometimes he doesn't know how to deal with women drama and he's self absorbed which I can understand. I on the other hand was too clingy and that's why he ended it with me. Someone please give me advice. thanks
justagurl Posted March 17, 2005 Posted March 17, 2005 lostgirl, from what you've said, i think that you are too vulnerable right now to "just" hang out with him. since having sex with him seems to be a much more emotional experience for you than it does for him, i would recomend trying to not hang out with him in situations where you think that you two may end up being intimate, that is, unless you honestly believe that you are strong enough to turn him down when he initiates sex, if you do then i say go on with your plan.
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