CoronelOlrik Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 Hi, Last Saturday I went out for the 1st time in the place where I've lived for the past 18 months. As my friends are all back home, I went out on my own. And, since I had had bad experiences before, I went out with the intention of not hitting on anybody. Just dance and look into space. Turns out that people obviously notice that you are alone. Although it's easy to play along with the guys who hi-5 and fist-bump you, it's another thing when it comes to the women. Some, especially those in mixed groups, make it pretty simple to tell that they are trying to make fun of you. And those I easily ignored. However, there was one in particular who came over and would dance/sing a song with me, then move to another spot not too far, alongside her girl friend. And she repeated this process 3-4 times. Being what you might call a scaredy cat, I didn't go after her, because I couldn't tell if she was interested, or just playing with the lonely guy. I feigned not being affected, and just kept on dancing. Eventually, she moved further away. There is even the chance it was because of my lack of dancing skills. As I have no experience in reading signs in these situations, I ask: How do I tell the serious and the pranksters apart? How do I avoid a "You thought *I* was interested? LOL!" situation?
acrosstheuniverse Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 Well over the age of 18 I'd imagine very, very few people play the 'pretend to be interested just to mock somebody' game. I've never seen it happen. I've never known anyone to do it to someone, or fall victim to it. Maybe it's more common in other areas but are you sure you're not just being paranoid? Perhaps being reminded of some childhood bullying...? So if someone is showing interest, go for it. What have you got to lose? Even if they were mocking you, you'd realise fast they wouldn't be people you're interested in dating anyway. Also I'm not sure that people can always tell you're alone in clubs. In a bar, yes. In clubs, not so much. Most people end up splitting up from their friends and wandering around so it's rare you can actually tell if someone's there alone or not. Unless they look miserable and are just sat or stood in one place for a long period of time speaking to nobody.
Author CoronelOlrik Posted November 17, 2014 Author Posted November 17, 2014 Maybe it's more common in other areas but are you sure you're not just being paranoid? Perhaps being reminded of some childhood bullying...? I'm pretty certain I'm not. I won't dare guess the reasons, but, like I said, in some cases it's pretty clear.
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