SavageCabbage Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 Ok months ago I met this girl at my workplace. I had a girlfriend and she had a boyfriend, a couple months later I split with my girlfriend and a few months later she split with her boyfriend. I asked her out a couple months later (probably too late in hindsight) but had to cancel date as I'd already booked a holiday for two weeks and the eve of my holiday she got back with her ex. It pissed me off and the holiday was also wank but I soldiered on. I even said basically "wtf u doing with him I'd treat you better" and she seemed to ignore that but whatever. I had my holiday and came back, she was still friendly but that spark was gone. She broke up with her boyfriend again cos he's a psycho but for the last months I felt she was off with me, speaking to others over me and ignoring me a lot, so I made a conscious effort to just call her mate and no more. The reaction was instant, with her texting and ringing me asking if I fell out with her. I thought if she's not into me then what does she care? Also a mutual friend told me about her seeing another guy, but she said she wasn't seeing anyone two days before (I didn't even ask!) because of her psycho ex. She also lied about going out one night when I wasn't even in the region and it's not like I care that she went out! She told others she was going out, but told me she wasn't. Then she texted me while out saying she was out, then denied going out again when I saw her later? I also asked if she had any single friends for me and she said no, she's the only single one out of her friends, but I checked facebook, which you can do even if you're not a member to a limited extent as I'm not on it, and a couple of her close friends are single? She also claims I'm her soulmate that she can tell anything but she's neglecting to tell me a lot. Can any of you make sense of this behaviour?
ExpatInItaly Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 I think she likes the attention she gets from you, but doesn't have a serious romantic interest. Also, there's too much drama. You know she's not being honest with you and you're only friends at this point - bad sign.
Author SavageCabbage Posted November 17, 2014 Author Posted November 17, 2014 Thanks for the quick reply! Yeah it does sound that way now that you mention it. What's the solution though? I work with her so I see her on a day to day basis, I don't wanna make things awkward at work for anybody. Should I simply keep away as much as possible?
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