jrtfrisco Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 (edited) I met a girl a month ago via online dating. First date went well, nice conversation, no kissing. Date two was two weeks later...dinner, nice time again, a little kiss at the end of the night. Two weeks later, date three (before date three, we texted every so often during the week, and spoke on the phone twice the week leading up to the third date). Date three was dinner, then after we went back to my apartment and kissed a little more (though nothing else), and had a nice talk, but I felt during the date like maybe she wasn't for me. To add to it, she opened up to me during the date, telling me that she had some mental issue that's not fully resolved (regarding stress) and that she doesn't think she's ready for a relationship yet (she said with anyone, including a girl friend). After she left, she texted me thank you, and good night (and I texted back good night as well). It's been a few days since the date, and she hasn't contacted me since (and visa versa). Do I let things be as is, or do I contact her and tell her, "sorry, this isn't for me"? If I gathered that she was still interested in me then I would tell her I'm no longer interested. But in light of what she said during the date, and her absence of contact now, I wonder if I tell her that then it will be uncalled for (as maybe she decided this wasn't for her too?). I'm just trying to do the right thing now. I'd appreciate your thoughts. Thank you. Edited November 17, 2014 by jrtfrisco
Standard-Fare Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 If you're definitely not interested, consider it a blessing that she has dropped out of contact. You probably don't need to take any action at all, and this thing can just fade out. But if you do hear from her, that would be the time when you could step in with something like: "I had a really nice time with you, but I don't think this has a future. Best of luck with everything."
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