beauty_lover98 Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 A few days ago, a guy that I really liked texted me late at night asking to hang out. I hung out with him before but it didn't go well because my mother watched us the whole time! I said that I can't because it's too late and he asked to hang out the next day and I said. "Yea I can hang out tomorrow". Then he responded, "Ok, text me tomorrow". Then the next day, I texted him saying, "Hey, do you want to hang out today at 7pm"? He never texted back after and he read the text but never responded. I didn't do anything wrong and he promised to hang out but he ignored me! I really like him and I feel worthless and not good for anyone after this happened. Why would he not text back? I really wanted to hang out with him and I really like him. Now I am depressed about this. Am I not good for him? Why would he ignore me when I did nothing wrong?
elaine567 Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 A few days ago, a guy that I really liked texted me late at night asking to hang out. I hung out with him before but it didn't go well because my mother watched us the whole time! I said that I can't because it's too late and he asked to hang out the next day and I said. "Yea I can hang out tomorrow". Then he responded, "Ok, text me tomorrow". Then the next day, I texted him saying, "Hey, do you want to hang out today at 7pm"? He never texted back after and he read the text but never responded. I didn't do anything wrong and he promised to hang out but he ignored me! I really like him and I feel worthless and not good for anyone after this happened. Why would he not text back? I really wanted to hang out with him and I really like him. Now I am depressed about this. Am I not good for him? Why would he ignore me when I did nothing wrong? He was at a loose end when he texted you, the next day he wasn't. Simple. You are not worthless. Do not contact him again, let him come to you. If he doesn't, then that is his loss, that doesn't devalue you in any way.
ExpatInItaly Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 A few days ago, a guy that I really liked texted me late at night asking to hang out. I hung out with him before but it didn't go well because my mother watched us the whole time! I said that I can't because it's too late and he asked to hang out the next day and I said. "Yea I can hang out tomorrow". Then he responded, "Ok, text me tomorrow". Then the next day, I texted him saying, "Hey, do you want to hang out today at 7pm"? He never texted back after and he read the text but never responded. I didn't do anything wrong and he promised to hang out but he ignored me! I really like him and I feel worthless and not good for anyone after this happened. Why would he not text back? I really wanted to hang out with him and I really like him. Now I am depressed about this. Am I not good for him? Why would he ignore me when I did nothing wrong? Girlfriend, you shouldn't be attaching so much of your self-worth to a guy you've hung out with once. I can understand being disappointed, but feeling worthless is an indication that you're basing your value on what some random guy does or doesn't do. He isn't the be-all and end-all of guys. Others who are more interested will come along. As for why he never responded, it's difficult to say. Maybe he made other plans. You said the first time didn't go so well - perhaps he's uncomfortable with a repeat. Do you mind if I ask how old you both are? 1
d0nnivain Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 His is one opinion. His choice not to text you back or hang out with you should not trigger feelings of worthlessness. Forget dating & hanging out. You need to work on bolstering your own self esteem. As for why he didn't text you back it's a passive way of saying he's not interested. Why he isn't interested is his personal opinion but it's not because there is anything inherently wrong with you.
clia Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 A few days ago, a guy that I really liked texted me late at night asking to hang out. I hung out with him before but it didn't go well because my mother watched us the whole time! I said that I can't because it's too late and he asked to hang out the next day and I said. "Yea I can hang out tomorrow". Then he responded, "Ok, text me tomorrow". Then the next day, I texted him saying, "Hey, do you want to hang out today at 7pm"? He never texted back after and he read the text but never responded. I didn't do anything wrong and he promised to hang out but he ignored me! I really like him and I feel worthless and not good for anyone after this happened. Why would he not text back? I really wanted to hang out with him and I really like him. Now I am depressed about this. Am I not good for him? Why would he ignore me when I did nothing wrong? He didn't text you back because he wasn't really interested in hanging out at 7 p.m. the next day. He texted you late at night asking you to hang out = booty call. He was hoping you would have sex with him that night. By the next day, that was off the table and he had moved on. You should not feel worthless or depressed about this. To the contrary, you did the right thing by not meeting up with him late at night. You actually dodged a bullet.
writergal Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 Agree with the other posters here. He texted you late at night because he wanted to sleep with you. Late night text invites always = booty call. I agree that his non-response to your text the next day is a passive way of telling you he's not interested. Please do not hang your self-worth on the way one guy rejects you. Delete his cellphone # from your phone and move on to dating other guys until you find a guy who likes you for exactly who you are. It will happen. It just takes time. Dating is a process of elimination anyway. You have to kiss a lotta frogs before you kiss the prince.
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