laelithia Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 It's 4:47 in the morning and I can't sleep because I had a nightmare of my ex and his previous ex coming to see me... Ugh just when I think I'm starting to heal it hurts so much. I was on "friendly" terms with my ex until I found out he lied about hanging out with his previous ex and I just could not let it go. He keeps saying they're not together but I think its only a matter of time before one of them moves to the other and they are. I hate how this still torments me. My ex even scoffed at me saying "why do you even care? We're not together anymore!" I just want to move on and stop thinking of him. It's now 4 months since the break up and I haven't healed because he wanted to be friends because he "cares too much to say goodbye forever". He also keeps saying he doesn't know what will happen in the future when I ask if there is a chance for reconciliation. I just want peace...
David87 Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 This is why a friendship is never a good idea after the BU.
Author laelithia Posted November 17, 2014 Author Posted November 17, 2014 This is why a friendship is never a good idea after the BU. I see that now. I had read different advice that if the dunper wanted to and was manking and effort to be friends that it is a good opportunity to seem positive and upbeat to change the way he thought about you after the breakup. I was unable to do that though and I constantly asked questions about the breakup and asked why he wouldn't try again if he cared so much about me
PegNosePete Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 Why are you even talking to him? If you want to move on then you need to cut contact.
Author laelithia Posted November 17, 2014 Author Posted November 17, 2014 Why are you even talking to him? If you want to move on then you need to cut contact. I have now. Before I thought there was a chance of reconcialiation but not it seems very unlikely. I didn't want to lose this person from my life but it seems that he made the decision the day he ended things
whatcanitellyou Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 Sometimes the reason they want to be friends is to keep you on the hook as a backup in case they can't find anything better. He can explore others and knows you're waiting for him, and if you find out and get upset he can claim innocence because you're not together. Please don't wait around as someone's plan B.
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