Having a hard time finding a compatible partner

[jms_nov28]

As the title states; I'm having a hard time finding a girl I can click with.

 

A little about me. I'm 23/M, confident, outgoing, great with people, laid back and know how to vibe in most situations. I've been told I'm attractive, and don't really have a hard time approaching women.

 

My problem is though, I can't find a girl that I can see myself with for the long time. I'll admit, I don't want hook-ups or one night stands, I'm past that stage in my life. If anything, my first girlfriend lasted 4yrs, and my second lasted 2yrs. Yeah I've had my fair share of hook ups, but deep down inside I much rather prefer a steady girlfriend. I'm also ready to graduate with my degree in engineering. When I go to parties, I have fun, speak to everyone, and have a good time. However the girls I find there aren't that interested in pursuing a relationship and rather have "fun", perhaps because they're 18-21 and still in that party mentality - in which there's absolutely nothing wrong with that.

 

I rather speak to women one on one, or have a great conversation with them about their hobbies, their goals, mutual interest, and the like. Does this make me a boring person to girls? I mean, I make them laugh, I'm very casual and playful, I also don't come off as an ass or snob (far from that!).

 

Since my university has separate buildings for each major, my building is 95% male, so it's hard to find girls there. Perhaps I should start studying in the main library, or coffee shops? Does it scare a girl when I mention that I'm about to graduate, that I work part time and prefer spending time with friends instead of hitting the club and bar hopping? I hope this doesn't come off wrong or narcissistic, because I'm truly not like that.

 

Anyway, I'll stop the walls of text lol I'd love to have a discussion with you guys and see what I could do to improve my chances of finding a woman who is serious about a relationship. Thank you!

[d0nnivain]

Yes, you should study in more common areas.

 

 

Are you involved in any social activities at school? They don't have to be parties but you should make an effort to go to things outside of your major.

 

 

I don't think it scares girls that you are graduating but the younger ones probably don't want to start something that will become long distance so soon.