KindlyUnspoken23 Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 Do you guys put a lot of merrit into social media? Like the guy I'm dating (though nothing is official) and I became facebook friends a few days after we met for the first time. Within the first week he liked a status, commented on a picture & at the beginning of October [after we hung out a few times] he made a cute comment on one of my statuses. Now? Nothing. He doesn't tag me in posts [but tags other female friends, his best friend who is a female], he comments on other people's posts that we work with but not mine. And he doesn't like ANYTHING. I know him and I are trying to keep quiet our relationship with some mutual friends, but at the same time, should I look at this as insulting? I hate social media sometimes!
KatZee Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 I know him and I are trying to keep quiet our relationship with some mutual friends, but at the same time, should I look at this as insulting? I hate social media sometimes! You're insulted because he's doing what you asked? Get over it. Is there a reason you're keeping each other a secret?
Author KindlyUnspoken23 Posted November 17, 2014 Author Posted November 17, 2014 No, I'm asking if I should be insulted that he "ignores" me on facebook. I feel like I'm putting too much stake into it, and maybe I'm right. Right now, since we're not official and are just seeing each other casually, we both feel like we should keep it quiet. He doesn't really want to answer to people about his personal life right now and explain the situation to anyone who asks. I'm okay with this because I dated someone I worked with once and it ended horribly, so I'd rather make sure this is going to work.
KatZee Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 Facebook is public. You have mutual friends. If he wasn't "ignoring you" people would know about his business, which he doesn't want. So again, what is the problem here? Of course he's not going to comment on everything or like everything or tag you in posts. People would catch on pretty quickly that you two were a thing. 3
Thegreatestthing Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 He should be liking your statuses and photos if he's into you.
Author KindlyUnspoken23 Posted November 17, 2014 Author Posted November 17, 2014 How long has he been on your FB? We've been facebook friends since we met in August. His last comment/acknowledgement on my facebook was early October. We've spent a lot more time together since then.
Coe Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 He is probably too busy enjoying your company to go on facebook and like your stuff. It isn't insulting in the slightest. 2
newmoon Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 i don't get it. do you want a real life boyfriend or a virtual one? who cares if he 'likes' you on fb or not, you want him to like you irl. priorities.
Woggle Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 Yet another reason life was better in the 90s. 1
cif Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 Are you sure he's not seeing other women? If they are also on FB he might not want her/them to catch on that you guys are involved.
Author KindlyUnspoken23 Posted November 17, 2014 Author Posted November 17, 2014 Are you sure he's not seeing other women? If they are also on FB he might not want her/them to catch on that you guys are involved. I guess there's no way to be 100% sure. But, I met his best friend (who as I mentioned is a female) and her boyfriend the other night, and he's introduced me to his co-workers. I don't think he'd do too much of that if there were other girls around. I mean, I think I'm overreacting because he doesn't really interact much with anyone on facebook, but I got spoiled by my last rlshp so maybe that's why.
Fondue Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 Whenever I see a facebook related post on this website, I can't help but /facepalm. I keep repeating myself: Social media adds nothing but drama to relationships. Stop taking it seriously. Stop analyzing it. Just... Stop it. As soon as you get rid of it, you'll notice how much your life actually improves. Sometimes I wonder if l am truly better off living in this technologically advanced society.
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