Cherrybreeze Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 Dealing with a fresh break up (not the first with him)....I can't bear to go into too many details yet, although I know it will make the question harder to answer. My ex (OH, gawd, it hurts to use that word), despite all of his bravado, I believe deep down is very insecure. He definitely has trust issues. The same thing has caused this break up as the last. He goes through my phone. Saw that I still am friends with an ex (and "ex" is too strong a term, this guy and I had a brief fling-thing last fall, but ended up becoming great friends...he's been my biggest confidant through my relationship). We hung out a couple times and I didn't tell my ex...I didn't want him to get the wrong idea. Well, he found out, and thinks I cheated anyway; the very thing I was hoping to avoid. So he knows I'm a liar, but thinks it was because I was sleeping with the guy and not to try to avoid strife. I talked to this friend a LOT about the ex, and how things were going, and said many, many good things. His focus is on what he perceives to be the cheating. He got angry - very angry - kicked me out, called me a bitch, I've never seen him so upset. I could see the hurt, though, even though he said he didn't feel a thing other than being disappointed in me and deserving of better. I also know I have WAY overdone it with the texts, messages, begging, pleading. Knew it was wrong, did it anyway. I'm hoping to be able to stick to NC, it worked the last time. We didn't go long without talking, but have been building on things for awhile. The last few weeks have been AMAZING, and I've been pulling away from the friend (and denied invitations to hang out) because of this. In the end, it doesn't matter. The last time I was sure it was totally over. He always says when he's done, he's done, and he doesn't look back. Well, he did, and things were better than ever, and I can't believe we're here again. I'm so mortified by my behavior, and so upset that I had anything for him to find. His reaction was worse this time, if possible (understandably), but as with last time, he has not deleted me as a friend. If he truly hated me, and wanted me GONE from his life....wouldn't he? I won't block or unfriend him, but I would think he would, if he really meant it? I could see through his anger that he was hurt, his eyes gave him away, although he says he does not care.
Mi7522 Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 IMHO I do not believe this relationship has any chance what so ever
Author Cherrybreeze Posted November 17, 2014 Author Posted November 17, 2014 It's hard when you can't get every single detail into a post...no matter what, something doesn't get across. I reread my OP, and I know it doesn't give the whole story in so many ways. Wish there was a way to convey it better.
Mi7522 Posted November 17, 2014 Posted November 17, 2014 It's hard when you can't get every single detail into a post...no matter what, something doesn't get across. I reread my OP, and I know it doesn't give the whole story in so many ways. Wish there was a way to convey it better. you are probably right but even with more detail I can honestly tell you to cut your losses and move on, you'll just be hurting yourself
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