Normal??

[evanescentworld]

Before you leave, make sure you are mentally prepared to face the repercussions.

 

 

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... I don't know how serious your predicament is (sounds serious enough to me), but my advice would be to talk about all of it to someone you can trust asap and put a plan of action in place.

 

I think the above is very sound advice, which is precisely why I mentioned to the OP that she had to put a plan into place.

 

She also has to consider the well-being and safety of her children, with regard to schooling disruption, safe and convenient location, and general practicalities of that nature.

 

Peace2015, I don't see anything, for one instant, that would indicate any kind of possible physical threat, or violent repercussion, but I agree that psychologically, you need to be prepared, and strong enough to really see, recognise and know without a doubt that this man has manipulated and verbally controlled you this far, and will make every effort to continue doing so.

He's pretty near broken you, so you have to implement a repair that will make you as good as new, if not better.

[elaine567]

Read "Living with the Dominator" by Pat Craven - easy to read book full of great info.

and then RUN.

[Peace2015]

I did end it. I just feel so empty and said. I keep thinking was it really that bad? I wanted to go out with girlfriends twice a year!

I wanted us to go out as a couple with my bro

And sis in law and few friends. And he threw a fit about that. Do you think he would treat any woman like this? He has only had 3 girlfriends his whole life. And one was 4 years. Other was 1 year. And he was 30 and she was 21 and up

At college, so they really never seen each other. It's not me, right?? It's him??

[lollipopspot]

I keep thinking was it really that bad?

 

Yes.

 

Do you think he would treat any woman like this?

 

Any woman who would allow it.

 

It's not me, right?? It's him??

 

The relationship is a co-creation. He's an *******. You're primed to be abused by *******s.